My husband recently purchased a home (currently in escrow) and he's upset that I'm not more excited about it. In fact, he's now saying he will stop the process because I clearly "don't want a house." To clarify, I never told him I didn't want a house nor did I ever say I wasn't happy about it. The issue is that I am going through some personal challenges at the moment that prevent me from showing more excitement. Shouldn't he cut me some slack?
For context: After years of getting passed over for promotions, and after discussions with my supervisor and peers, I went back to school to get a degree with the idea that it'd help me. It's been 8 months since graduating and I continue to get passed over for promotions. I have a school loan that I have to start paying back soon and I am stressed about that. I have met with multiple career coaches, resume experts, mentors, and I have followed their advice but no luck.
When my husband told me he wanted to buy a house, I told him I wasn't ready (financially or emotionally), but it was important to him (this is his first purchase). I eventually committed to helping. I also helped find the realtor, looked through listings, and went on house tours. When he finally decided to put down an offer, I was very happy and supportive and tried my best to ease his concerns.
However, while going through the house buying process, I've had a few really upsetting professional setbacks which have affected me emotionally. Thus, I simply can't be as excited as he wants me to be. Today was a particularly bad day because I received some very disappointing news, yet the entire day was focused on him being upset that I'm not more excited about the house.
I think he is freaking out about this since it's his first purchase, and he's just looking for an excuse to back out. My feeling is that he's using my "lack of excitement" as the excuse he needs. But when I told him that, he says he just doesn't think it's a good idea to buy a house "I don't want" even though I never said that. I admit I haven't been as excited but I also believe my reasons are valid.
tl;dr: Husband is upset I'm not more excited about the house he's buying and is saying he will stop process. I've been supportive but can't be as excited because I'm dealing with some personal challenges that are giving me a lot of anxiety (school debt, issues at work). Shouldn't he cut me some slack?
Submitted August 21, 2021 at 11:03PM by itzybitzy101 https://ift.tt/3gpLkYZ
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