So this is going to be a long one appreciate those who read. I met my wife 4 years, within months we lived together and after a year we got married. Shortly after being married she got pregnant we had our first child and a few months after my daughter was born she got pregnant again and had our son. Needless to say we are both young and we have always moved fast. She has always identified as bisexual and has even had female partners in the past. She also has struggled with mental illness and ive always tried to do the best for her and be there for her however I can. She’s my best friend and although only 4 years together we’ve been through thick and thin together. Now she has always struggled with her sexual identity even to the point a year ago we tried out possibly added another women however it never really worked out and we both agreed we were too jealous to really go through with it. Now fast forward to a week ago and we get to talking one day and she comes out to me as a lesbian besides me basically. Like I’m the only guy she thinks she could ever be attracted to anymore but she didn’t know if she wanted to still be with me. This hurt obviously and I asked her if she had feelings for someone else, to which she told me no and she would always tell me if there was someone. We talk more about it and decide maybe we should go to counseling and work on this maybe because we are both each other’s best friends and with the kids we don’t wanna just give up. Now the next morning I find a post she made on a board saying how she came out to her husband and how she feels awful and regrets it but here’s the kicker she met someone she has feelings for however non sexual. So I confront her on this and she goes into apology mode and I’m upset even more now that I was lied to. I decide to go stay with my family that night and spend a day or 2 away to think about it and talk to family and friends and I decide I can’t be with her anymore however much I want to. Fast forward to now it’s been a few more days we still talk every day and are pretty civil and she says she is still my best friend. But idk I’m so torn up one minute I’m angry, next sad, next understanding and wanting whats best for her and our kids. If not for them idk what I would have done I can’t just cut off contact with her since we are beginning coparenting but it’s so hard to see her and talk to her without all the feelings coming up. And idk if I’m looking for advice or just generally a place to vent I’m just lost and confused right now and my heart hurts so bad. Thanks for listening any and all comments are appreciated.
TLDR: wife is a lesbian, we have 2 kids and are divorcing. I’m hurt confused and lost right now.
Submitted May 04, 2021 at 01:59PM by throwawaycpl1235 https://ift.tt/3gZb939
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