Just looking for some advice on whether or not I'm overreacting to this.
So my fiancé met up up with his ex that he broke up with 8 years ago and didn't tell me til two weeks later.
For background, after they broke up, they stayed close friends for a few years but then she started seeing someone and her boyfriend made her more or less cut off my fiancé. Since then, they've maintained casual contact, wishing each other happy holidays and whatnot, but haven't seen each other in person in years. About a month ago, she messages my fiancé and asks for help with her computer, since he used to help her with those things back in the day. He told me about this, and agreed to help her. I thought it was pretty strange for her to reach out to him about this, but I didn't say anything about it at the time. Fast forward to today, I notice the computer in our house and ask about it and he tells me that he met up with her 2 weeks ago. I asked why he didn't tell me about it at the time and basically he didn't think it was important, since we're engaged and she's married and he was just doing her a favor. I should add that my fiancé generally tends to overshare too much, and has told me a lot about this ex in the past, about how she was his first love and that he still feels love for her and would do anything for her even though he's no longer in love with her. Knowing this makes me a bit uncomfortable about the situation and I don't know what to do. He's also said that he's sad that they've lost touch overtime and wants to catch up with her. Is that normal for exes? I haven't experienced anything like that before personally, so I find it hard to relate to. Do you think he still has unresolved feelings for her and just wants her back in his life in some way? Or that she feels that way? It seems weird to reach out for this kind of thing after so many years, especially during a pandemic.
To add, I don't have an issue with him having female friends, he has quite a few and I'm not bothered at all by it. It just seems weird to want to reignite a friendship with an ex when you're newly engaged. But he's always been super open in the past and I have no reason not to trust him, so it could be my insecurities blowing this out of proportion.
Tl;dr My fiancé's ex of 8 years, reached out to him for a favor and he didn't tell me they met up for two weeks. He says he's sad they lost contact and wants to catch up with her. Should I be concerned?
Submitted April 02, 2021 at 09:41PM by Throwra6232 https://ift.tt/39DFQGV
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