I don't know where to start.
I have ben with my fiancé for 5 months. He swept me off my feet by taking me on weekend trips, telling me I was the only one for him, sending my parents flower arrangements and being SO sweet and attentive. My whole family fell in love with him. He seemed to be the perfect guy: polite, came from a good family and seemed loyal.
He seemed rushed and asked me about my fertility after a few months. Then he asked me about marriage and moving in with him. I became concerned because his behavior started to get controlling. He started questioning my motives when I went to meet a highschool friend to exchange clothes. Then when I started voicing concerns about the relationship he told me "do you have someone on the side?" It really hurt. I've been 100% loyal.
He proposed to me one month ago and said it was our "forever vow," and I had to promise that I would "listen to him always" So now he told me I have to respond within a certain timeframe and he asked to share my location with him.
We had a problem when a girlfriend found his profile on a local dating app. When I confronted him, he said it was a joke profile his workmate set up. But then I noticed he was following a lot of girls on his Instagram (who seemed single an in our area) and I confronted him about it.
(When I'm upset, I usually have to talk about it - even if it's for a few minutes)
I was angry but I calmly said "just be truthful about these profiles." I said I felt hurt, unseen, and that it was unacceptable.
He told me "you always bring up these concerns at the worst time. You're using them as an attack on me. It's made me so angry." He said that I was a mean person who was using the profile as a weapon. I do feel bad because I know he's really stressed, but the profile really hurt and I don't understand why he's doing it if he loves me so much.
He said "I promised you my life. We are engaged and now you choose to bring this up? When I'm trying to convince my family to accept you?
I just said sorry and he dropped it.
Some other behaviour:
- He says we have to be married, but keeps changing the engagement date and delays telling his family.
- If I don't respond right away, he calls me and asks me where I am.
- I bring up his trust issues and he says "you're the one with issues."
- He says I must work to earn my place in his family and change myself to be better.
- He wants to accompany me to dr's appointments.
TL;DR boyfriend blames profiles on me
Submitted April 12, 2021 at 12:10PM by Throwaway-girl177 https://ift.tt/2QnoyGU
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