My childhood friend (30F), who encouraged me (30F) to leave my husband (30M), has been trying to proposition him.

I’ve been married for 6 years. I am currently 8 months pregnant.

My husband and I have been having some problems for the past year and things were getting increasingly worse. The issues boil down to the fact that my husband has a strong personality and has had the privilege of living a life where people bend over backwards to keep him happy, and he expected the same behaviour from me. I did it for the majority of our relationship, but I was becoming someone I didn’t recognise, and I was tired of playing a role and feeling like my husband loved the fake version of me and not the real me.

I have a childhood friend “Emma” who I confided in and who gave me the courage to finally ask for a divorce. As expected, my husband told me no. My husband has always made it clear that our marriage was for life so he gave me a harsh reality check on what life would look like for me if I chose to try to force a divorce on him. After a week, which I spent the majority of the time crying in bed, he sent me to my parents because he thought the constant crying wasn’t good for the baby and I would be happier away from him.

I stayed with my parents for a month. They couldn’t believe I had asked my husband for a divorce because they thought we were happy the entire time. I told them all of the things which made me unhappy and while they were supportive, they also pointed out that I was being unfair to him because I jumped too quickly to divorce and I didn’t even give my husband a real chance to fix things.

We started couple’s counselling at their suggestion. I found out during our second session that Emma was trying to proposition my husband the entire month I was staying with my parents.

I just feel so stupid and like I can’t trust my own judgement anymore. I thought I could trust Emma and that she had my best interest at heart, but it turns out she was just trying to get me out of the picture.

I don’t even know where to go from here. How do I ever trust my judgement again? How do I know when someone is being genuine? How do I make it up to my husband?

TL;DR – Childhood friend encouraged me to ask my husband for a divorce. It came out in our couple’s counselling session that she has been trying to proposition him for the entire month I stayed with my parents.

Submitted April 12, 2021 at 01:27PM by ThrowRAproposition https://ift.tt/3sd8ODQ