My boyfriend (M24) has become so depressed that he is becoming kind of physically abusive towards me (F21)

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. He has been my rock, my entire support system, and world. I love him a lot, and he has been the only one there for me at my worst moments. He’s very nurturing and kind.

Lately though, he’s changed. He stopped showering and only will do it after a week or more (once I say he smells and I have to beg him to shower), he has no energy, doesn’t leave the house, isn’t talking to friends. He keeps saying how he’s a failure and keeps putting himself down. His roommate also has been mooching off him and owes him 10k in rent.

This change has been worrisome already, he’s usually a very energetic, happy, and social guy.

He’s been also a lot more irritable and quick to get upset with me. He never really got too angry in the past. He did two things that kind of rang alarm bells for me in our fights.

He bit me (somewhat lightly on my hand) when he was upset at me. He also dug his finger nails into my arm which left indentation marks when I was admittedly, purposely annoying him.

Hes never used physical force before in our fights. I know he's very depressed and more stressed than usual. But, he apologized for both incidents and seemed to feel very bad. Should I forgive him?

TL;DR my boyfriend acted abusive from his depression. I am worried it might get worse but am unsure since he seems to feel very bad about it.

Submitted April 04, 2021 at 07:54PM by finolafin https://ift.tt/39Ilv34