I (22F) have told too many people about a personal problem - how to avoid doing it again & feeling crap after oversharing?

I don't usually seek advice from people but because this was a situation I've never been in before (that involves a career move but isn't a job - more like a training opportunity), I consulted a few close friends as I normally would but also told people in the industry about the problem to get some more catered advice. I literally just made a list of all the people I told and it's around 10 people, outside of the organisation (and 4 or 5 within the organisation which was just pointless because they're partial to me staying obviously) and I just feel stupid because everyone gives different opinions and I feel it's confused me even more. I also keep changing my mind about the decision of whether to stay in the training organisation (with one toxic "mentor" causing problems for me) - whether to choose peace or career prospects.

I guess it's just bothering me that I let so many different people know about an issue I've experienced but at the time I did it for 1) validation as the situation involved someone trying to gaslight me making me unsure of whether I was right to be bothered by then and 2) advice on whether to stay, leave, report it higher up etc. Just because I couldn't figure out what the best option is for me.

Obviously there's nothing I can do about it now as it's done. Just want to avoid sharing things with so many people in a future situation (as usually only open up to 3 of my closest people and want to keep it that way but feel like I've already opened up the did).

TL;DR - I opened up to more than just a few people about a career move based on a toxic person within a training organisation and I want to avoid this feeling, in future, of regret/stupidity for "oversharing"

Submitted April 09, 2021 at 04:19AM by askilosa https://ift.tt/321S3AY