We dated for 3 years but broke up almost 2 years ago. We have a toddler together so I can’t completely cut him out of my life.
We broke up because he implied, I wasn’t marriage material, and he would/could never marry me. He said something about how I wouldn’t enjoy being his wife because it wouldn’t be like how things are now between us; he said he (and his family) would have a lot of expectations from me and that he didn’t think I would be able to cope with the pressure. He said it would be hard for someone who didn’t have the same/similar upbringing to him to be content with the life he would live. He used his cousin as an example because he married someone who had a significantly different upbringing to him, and they ended up divorced after less than a year because she couldn’t cope with the pressure.
At the time I already knew I was pregnant (he didn’t), and I had always thought we had a very happy and loving relationship, so to say I was devastated would be an understatement. I ended up breaking up with him because I couldn’t get over what he said.
I only told him I was pregnant when I was 7 months. He wanted to fix our relationship for our son’s sake, but I didn’t see a point in being with someone who only ever saw me as temporary.
Well, my ex has had a change of heart and now believes I would make a great wife. He has asked me multiple times to give him a second chance and to marry him. He has grovelled and sincerely apologised for how awful he had been. His family have also brought up the topic of marriage to me multiple times, and my own family are on board with the idea of us getting married despite knowing why I broke up with him.
At first, I kept telling him no because I was still angry with him, but I’ve been working on letting go of the anger because it was making co-parenting unnecessarily difficult. Now, I’m starting to doubt myself and I feel like maybe I am being stubborn, and I should give him a second chance.
What do you think, Reddit? Do I give him a second chance? If not, how do I get him to stop asking and to get my family (and his) to stop mentioning it also?
TL;DR – My ex-boyfriend implied I wasn’t marriage material while I was (unknown to him) pregnant with our child. We broke up and I told him about the pregnancy when I was 7 months. Ever since he has been begging me for a second chance and has said he wants to get married.
Submitted April 10, 2021 at 08:23AM by ThrowRAnotmm https://ift.tt/2QesVEc
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