So, me and my partner have been dating about a year now and recently moved in together.
Everything was cushty and nice for the first 10-11 months. We were perfect, same interests, same hobbies, slight difference but nothing that put the other off. This was absolutely amazing for me especially coming out of a toxic relationship with a partner who had behaviour difficulties and would often take out their anger on me physically and mentally. It was nice to have someone who was “Normal” as such.
Since we’ve been spending entire days together a few of my partners mannerisms have really irked me lately. I feel like I should mention we were both bought up in very different cultural backgrounds so there was bound to be differences. She comes from a reasonably well off background and I came from dirt, nothing, I’m a working class lad.
Anyways, she’ll often turn on me at the flip of a coin. Sometimes she’ll go really cold and mean with me, move herself away from me as I go in for a cuddle or a kiss and just brush me aside as if I’ve been pestering her for hours. She’s commanding in her request “Make me a drink of water”, “Chop chop get dinner going” etc.
Ontop of this she’s recently made comments about my weight, my teeth (had an accident when I was younger), my income, my family’s current situation and more. Anytime I’ve confronted her about it she’s hit me with either “This is who I am, I’m not going to change who I am” or she’ll flip it and make it about herself.
I do everything for this girl because I love her, I take her where she wants, I host her family almost every damn weekend, I cook, clean and everything in between but yet I still get treated like a servant with the occasional love. I even saved up for 3 months to buy her a piano she wanted and she complained it was second hand and disregarded my efforts.
She does wake up in the mornings and express her feelings for me when extremely sleepy. “I love you so much” “I don’t know what I’d do without you” “don’t ever leave me” “You’ll never know how much I love you” but then the moment she’s up she can flip on me in an instant and ruin my entire day.
I know I’m no angel and I’m sure I do things that can annoy her but I’ve got to the point where I’m tempted to be like “Okay I’ll match your energy and we’ll see how it goes huh?”
Am I being too sensitive when the only complaint I have is for her to actually be nice to me? I worship her when she asks me about how she looks but when I ask the same she’ll make comments and such.
TLDR: Is it too much for me to ask for my GF to be nice to me after making petty / unnecessary comments about my weight, teeth and family? Different cultural upbringings may contribute
Submitted April 04, 2021 at 04:05PM by PapaCassss https://ift.tt/3drAkIc
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