I’ve been dating my boyfriend Will for six months now. We’ve been friends for two years though, since we were involved in a mutual hobby together. We mostly hung out at my place during our friendship and the beginning of our relationship so I never met his family until we started dating.
He brought me around to meet his mom a month into us dating. I was polite, albeit shy. But I introduced myself, said I had heard a lot of good things about her from Will, which is true, and that I was excited to meet her finally. She just kinda shrugged and went back to looking at her computer. I chalked it up to maybe being busy or tired and I didn’t think that much of it. I didn’t hang around their place much (he went to my place 80% of the time for the privacy), but if I ever stopped by to see him, she wouldn’t acknowledge me if I said hi. We got back to his place after a day out and I was going to leave to my car, we both had Starbucks in hand. She sees us and sarcastically says that she wanted Starbucks. I apologized and felt really awkward. She wasn’t there when we left and I didn’t know what she liked from Starbucks or anything.
For context, Will lives in his mom’s house and pays rent to her while he goes to his college, which is in the next town (so he never moved out to live in the dorms). He’s graduating in May. I live an hour away where I’m finishing up grad school. I floated the idea of moving in together since I live in a tiny studio and I figured he wanted to move out now that he’s almost done with college and had expressed to me that he didn’t like living with his mom and siblings, who are much younger. My lease was month to month, so we decided to move in on the first of April to a cheap place we were both looking at in a nearby city (we could move since our classes are both online and we don’t have to be physically present in our classes).
So we were scheduled for moving in on 4/1. I asked if I could sleep over 3/31 since I had my stuff all packed in my car and I had officially moved out. He said sure and he said that he let his mom know. Okay, cool.
I get to his place after I get out of work that evening. I go up to his door and knock. I see through the window that his mom is there watching television in the living room. I knock again, thinking maybe she didn’t hear me? She glances at the door but doesn’t get up. I go to my car and call Will, who didn’t pick up because he fell asleep. I ended up driving away to see if I could get a room at the local motel after ten minutes. Will calls me and is apologetic that he fell asleep. I’m crying because I feel so anxious and awkward. I know for a fact she heard me.
I ended up driving to our new place and sleeping on the futon there because I felt really terribly awkward staying after that situation.
I don’t know how to proceed. I love Will but this situation makes me so anxious and nervous. I have been as polite as possible, smiling, saying hi, and all that normal stuff. How can I mend this relationship?
TL;DR: boyfriend’s mom doesn’t seem to like me. I’m unsure as to how to proceed.
Submitted April 04, 2021 at 02:02PM by bijelopoljka https://ift.tt/2R7QKy9
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