Two months ago, I started seeing a man (31M) that I started developing feelings for. The situation ended abruptly when we had a very bad sexual encounter (he kept insisting we have sex after I said I didn't want to because I was on my period and he eventually wore me down and entered me when I stopped saying "no") that I wrote about on Reddit before. That, along with the fact that he was not respecting my COVID boundaries at a time when I couldn't endanger a family member who was at extreme risk of catching it and blaming me for nor "prioritizing him" and "worrying too much") led us to stop talking to each other.
You can and should say that I dodged a major bullet but the trouble is that, two months later, his face is in some local and not-so-local news outlets for some achievements at a popular startup where he works. He is constantly praised as an up-and-coming star in his industry. It is triggering to constantly see that and, while I try to distract myself and resist googling him, I often end up reading these pieces and getting upset. Sometimes I have thoughts of going public and sharing what he did to me but realize that it will cause me embarrassment and only prolong the pain I'm feeling now by getting me wrapped up in drama.
I guess what I'm asking is: how do I move on from this bad experience so that I'm not looking up his name online and getting angry. I am in virtual therapy twice a month and, while it's helping, I would love to speed the process along to where I'm not thinking about him so much. The therapist said I can't do much more than give it time. Any advice?
TL;DR: A man I was seeing briefly wore me down when I said no to sex and was otherwise terrible about COVID boundaries. He is now constantly in the media as an "up-and-coming star" for his work. Seeing that reignites feelings of anger and hurt.
Submitted April 04, 2021 at 07:21PM by No_Baker1997 https://ift.tt/3sSCQ0C
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