My [32m] Catholic fiancée [28f] is pressuring me to start going to church with her and it’s causing severe friction.

She is a devout Catholic. I am agnostic, leaning atheist.

The problem is my idea of “support” is vastly different from her idea of “support.”

I don’t criticize her beliefs or make any kind of comment about them whatsoever. I don’t make a fuss when she wants to put a cross on the wall, a nativity out for Christmas, or angel statues... everywhere. I ask her “how was church?” when she comes back and have even reminded her to go a few times. In my view, I am being extremely “supportive” of her beliefs while still maintaining and respecting my own.

However, recently, she has been thinking more about the future and our potential family and she has decided that I need to start going to church with her even though I don’t believe in God and think organized religions in general are severely flawed. She says that she is not trying to change my beliefs—she just wants “my support” for her beliefs by going with her to church... and sitting, kneeling, standing, singing, and chanting while I’m there.

I told her that there’s a difference between supporting someone’s beliefs and being forced to embrace them yourself.

It’s causing a lot of fights. Like, bad ones.

Is this relationship doomed? Is there anything I can say or do, short of just... pretending to be a Christian to make her happy?

TL;DR: Catholic fiancée says I don’t support her beliefs. I say I do, I just don’t want to be forced to share those beliefs and it’s causing severe friction.

Submitted February 04, 2021 at 04:06AM by Bladewing_The_Risen https://ift.tt/3jiHgKl