My (29M) girlfriend (30F) starts arguments over small things and never lets go until they go nuclear.

Tldr; Girlfriend has a habit of starting an argument over a small thing and then refusing to drop the argument even if I agree with her until we both go crazy, with yelling and tears and talk of a breakup.

My (29M) girlfriend (30F) starts arguments over small things and doesn't drop them until they go nuclear.

I've been with this girl for 2 years now. Most things are perfect in the relationship, but I've noticed a recurring problem.

Every now and then she will pick a seemingly random topic and attach onto it. After that point she will simply never let go and continue argueing about it long after I've basically given my opinion on it.

She will start to become a bit aggressive as well, giving me death stares while talking. At some point I'll lose all will to continue this and just fold in an attempt to get her to snap out of this spiral, but even then she won't. She will just keep going on and on.

One such issue was that my mother was being too controlling of my sister (vaguely affects us as when she meets my parents they take a lot of photos and she hated having photos taken of her, she feels my mom is controlling her as well). I told her my mom is a bit like that and to ignore it if possible. She didn't let go.

Then I just said look, If you never ever want to see my mom again that's actually fine by me, can we just stop argueing? No dice.

After about an hour of her getting angrier and angrier over this, Im lost for how to diffuse this situation. She's normally very happy and friendly, but it's like Jekyll and Hyde... Once she attaches herself into some kinda argument she just never lets go.

I ended up being so tired of it that I told her look whatever you want in this argument, you have it. Please let's just stop fighting it's 2am and I'm tired, we have work tommorow... Still no dice.

Eventually I turned the lights off and scared her by pretending to be a zombie, which sounds laughable but made her so scared she cried and then I apologised and finally at 3am after 2 hours of argueing, she snapped out of it and we're good again.

No this isn't a rickroll or a troll post ... that's actually what happened.

Ive been systematically trying ways to break her out of this non-stop argueing mode from apologising profusely to her, to crying to her, to yelling back at her, and now scaring her. Nothing works reliably.

Anyone ever dealt with this kind of thing before?

Submitted February 03, 2021 at 03:23PM by Throwthingshere https://ift.tt/3trtwli