My [24F] boyfriend [24M] always takes tickling too far and I don't know how to stop it. It's starting to really wear on me.

So we've been together for 7 years. Since high school. He's a pretty silly guy and I do like that about him, but in the last year he has been taking it too far during play wrestling/tickling and no matter how many conversations we have about it, he just keeps doing it. I literally don't know else to approach this, I've said how much it bothers me SO many times and he just refuses to acknowledge it. I'm at my wits end about being tickled and I need some advice.

We do play fight/wrestle sometimes and lately he has been overpowering me to tickle me, but even when I start seriously yelling at him to stop he won't. He got super mad that I kneed him quite hard in the chest by accident and he said "it's just a game" and that just made him tickle me harder until I was literally crying and peed my pants. It was super embarrassing and actually really painful.

I've stopped initiating play wrestling entirely because I don't like it anymore. This last year he just hasn't been making it fun for me or "letting me win" ever so it's not even playing. He comes up behind me and tickles me and refuses to stop to the point where I'm literally screaming for him to stop and have had to lock myself in the bathroom when I got away until he got bored. He keeps saying I'm acting like his kid brothers and to not take playing so seriously, and that if I just had fun and tickled him back it wouldn't be so bad. He keeps saying I'm tense and he's just loosening me up, but I'm tense because it's not fun for me.

It's gotten to the point where I really don't know what to do and seriously need advice. I don't even want to fall asleep on our couch anymore incase he does this. I don't find it fun and it usually ends with me getting extremely pissed off and sometimes crying because he does it to the point where it hurts. Even when I say this he just pokes me and says "stop being a whinerrrr" in a silly voice. I appreciate his silliness and the jokey side of him but I'm so over this that I'm starting to just think negative things about him a lot and I don't like it.

I have had to kick him really hard a few times to get him off and he gets super angry about it because he says I'm ruining a fun time by doing that.

Advice on handling this?

TL;DR my bf always takes tickling too far and starts play fights that are too rough. Talking to him hasn't stopped it. Advice?

Submitted February 05, 2021 at 03:48PM by plazasaur https://ift.tt/36PsVA5