I [21M] told my Ex (21F) that i wanted to meet other women after she told me she had sexual feelings for another girl. She got mad and said “It’s not the same thing.”

TL;DR: Me and my ex-girlfriend (not FWB, just F) got upset with me when i mentioned the idea of meeting other women. However, she’s mentioned her interests and actions with another girl, but claims it’s not the same thing as moving on and that i should be excited (horny?) that it happened.

I don’t know, I’m so tired (3:23AM) , and annoyed that I even have to talk about this, but maybe I can get some perspective here. Basically my ex of 5-6 months now and i are still friends and there are no benefits so don’t worry about that. In the past 2 months she’s been exploring her sexuality and I guess since we’ve always been close she has confided in me about this girl she has a crush on (calling her Rosie!). She’s brought her Rosie three times, 1) talking about what she has done with her, 2) talking about her wanting to go further, and 3) talking about a potential threesome (but this is more of a joke, i think lol).

Basically tonight I told her I finally wanted to meet other women (Been working on sobriety and myself a lot since the breakup). She proceeds to tell me she doesn’t want to hear anything about that and that i’m being rude talking to her about that. I respond by saying I don’t know what our boundaries are if you can talk about Rosie but I can’t even express the desire to meet other women. She responds with, “It’s not the same thing because this is a girl and it’s not going to go anywhere.”

She proceeded to spend a considerable effort telling me I’m ignorant for weaponizing someone she has a crush on against her, and (in my opinion this is gaslighting) she repeatedly said if I’m going to bring up other women to hurt her she shouldn’t share anything about the fun things in her life with me.

She always says she wishes i could see things from her POV, and while it’s not a big deal to me (i don’t have to talk about that stuff with my ex) I feel like it’s hypocritical because she’s repeatedly mentioned things she has already done with this girl, how am i supposed to know expressing the idea of finding a new woman would cause a massive fight?

Feel free to tell me if i’m being stupid

Submitted February 03, 2021 at 12:26AM by BlackButNotEnough https://ift.tt/2MTZGVu