I (24F) hate my period and found a way to possibly get rid of it but my boyfriend (24m) doesn't want me to go through with it.

Due to the genes I have received from my mother, I have a heavy flow. The cramps are bad, but I can safely say they don't stop me from walking or doing anything at times like some women (I pray for y'all). Anyways, my main problem with my period is the blood. It gets everywhere and always stains my underwear no matter how hard I try. I really just want it gone so I did the bare minimum of research and saw that there's a medical procedure that stops your period for life. I had planned on asking my doctor about it when I could so I can get more info. Preferably from a resource I trust.

I mentioned it to my boyfriend in casual conversation, how I couldn't stand my period and found a way to possibly get rid of it. Before I could even finish he just simply tells me "Don't do it." Confused, I asked what he meant and he just said that it could be dangerous for me. I get he's concerned, but that didn't sound like the real reason to me so I kept prying. I didn't want to not go through with without an actual reason. He tells me that it could affect my ability to get pregnant.

Needless to say, it caught me by surprise since I didn't even know he had been thinking about kids. I never planned on having any, nor do I want to for many reasons. The thought of it can just scare me to tears. He said that having kids was one of his life goals and how he'd be there for me every step of the way if we were to. I don't doubt that, but I'm not sure if I could handle being pregnant. I suggested adoption but that didn't seem to catch his attention.

Another problem is, I don't really know if getting rid of my period would affect if I could get pregnant or not. My doctor's office is closed for a while so I can't really ask now. I'm wondering if anyone knows if it will or not. And if it does, I'm not sure what to do because I always swore myself off of having children ever since I was 12 and years later I still can't bring myself to find the appeal in it. I love my boyfriend naturally, and I'm scared he'd end things because of it.

TL;DR: I am fed up with my period and found a way to possibly get rid of it, but my boyfriend doesn't want me to do anything because he's afraid I might not be able to get pregnant. I never wanted kids and I don't think I'll ever change my mind about it.

Submitted October 25, 2020 at 06:54AM by idek1227 https://ift.tt/37Iq910