My husband told his parents I'm still pregnant even though I'm not.

About 7 months ago I had to have an abortion. I won't go into the reasons as it's personal but it was a difficult situation. My husband and I had a long conversation about it and he agreed it was the right choice but said he was sad about it. The whole thing just sucked.

From then on he kept saying things like "if you were still pregnant the baby would be the size of an apple" or "around now the baby would be developing hands" and stuff like that. He recently started going on about how we'd be getting ready for the baby anytime now. I told him to please see a therapist because it was creeping me out, but he refused.

Now I've discovered he told his parents I was pregnant right after I told him, while we were already talking about possibly having an abortion, then failed to tell them I'm not actually pregnant. I don't really talk directly to his parents, we just don't have that kind of relationship and we don't particularly get along very well, so when my MIL sent me the first text between us since Christmas thanking me for choosing her husband's name to be my son's middle name and saying she was excited for him to be born so she could meet him, I was very confused.

I asked my husband about it and he admitted he had let his parents keep thinking I was pregnant, answered their questions about my pregnancy, thrown out a card they sent to congratulate me, told them I was super busy and stressed to try and prevent them from contacting me, and given them messages "from me" while saying he was passing along their messages to me. I don't know what he thought he was going to do when my "due date" passed and his parents wanted to see their "grandson".

I really don't know how to even approach talking to my husband about this. When he came clean I just walked out and I haven't gone home since. What the hell do I even do?

Tldr: husband told his parents I was pregnant even though I had an abortion, I have no idea how to even approach this messed up situation.

Submitted September 01, 2020 at 01:47AM by throwRA-flarp https://ift.tt/3gTNAFy