I (30M) proposed to my girlfriend (28F) last night at a small gathering with our closest friends. We’ve been together for 5 years, and 2 years before that. She said yes and it was a great night.
This morning as soon as I woke up she told me that we needed to have a talk. She said “I had an abortion” and then through tears she told me that it was mine, and that it was her “biggest regret.” She told me it happened during the time when we had broken up because I took a job in a different state.
I told her I needed time alone, just to process what she told me. I’ve spent most of my day driving around aimlessly. I don’t have know what to make of how I feel. I have so many questions that I know I can’t ask her. She’s been calling and texting all day, but I don’t even know that to say to her right now.
Yes, it’s her body and it is her choice to make... and I’m sure that she made the choice that she needed to. I’m sure it was right.
I love her, but I’m upset with her for keeping this from me. I don’t blame her, but I’m upset that she didn’t trust me enough to tell me all these years. I wish I could’ve been there to show that maybe I could’ve been a good dad. Mostly, I wish I could’ve been there to support her and comfort her. Also, who else besides me knows? What other secrets has she kept from me?
I’m absolutely not trying to “punish” her by any means, I guess I’m having a harder time processing this and forgiving her than I should. on really looking for advice on how to face her, and how to move forward in our relationship.
TL;DR- my fiancé aborted what would’ve been our child when we had taken a break 6 years ago. She just told me today. I don’t know how to process this and I’m having a hard time dealing with this news.
Submitted September 22, 2020 at 07:13PM by prideofneptune https://ift.tt/2RQrGst
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