My mom[51F] wakes me[23M] up aggressively every morning to kiss me before she leaves for work. It ruins my sleep schedule. How do I kindly tell her to stop?

So, this is a little bit of an odd situation, but one that has significantly affected me for many years now.

For the past few years, my mom has always come into my room to give me a kiss goodbye on the cheek/forehead very early in the morning (around 5:45 AM) before she leaves for work. Now, this may not sound like such a bad thing, but the way she goes about it has really ruined my sleep schedule. I tend to stay up late and so when she comes in every morning, she always wakes me up and I have a really hard time falling back to sleep. On top of this, her methods of giving me a kiss are abusive. Once she loudly opens the door, she will aggressively grab me by the shirt, head, or pillow, in order to pull me close to her since my bed is really high and I can't really be reached if I'm on the opposite side of her. When she can't reach me she'll start yelling at me until I wake up to come closer to her. If I try to resist she'll just keep yelling and trying to grab me towards her somehow. When I finally give in just to make her leave, she sometimes has even picked me up by the head, gives the kiss on the cheek, and then just straight up drop me. One time she even walked out without closing my door again and told me to get up and close it myself. When I've tried to tell her to stop waking me up in the morning, she resorts to toxic arguments such as, "Oh, so you don't want your mom anymore huh!?" or "So you're too grown now aren't you? You don't love your mom anymore, right!?". How can I go about telling her to stop rudely waking me up and attacking me in the morning?

TL;DR: For the past few years my mom has been aggressively waking me up every morning before she goes to work to give me a kiss goodbye. I'm usually up late and like to sleep in, but she always comes in very early in the morning to give me kiss goodbye on the cheek before she leaves for work. She doesn't do this in a nice way, often shaking, or pulling me towards her. She's been doing this forever and it's annoying. I know she will be defensive when I ask her to stop. How can I go about telling her to stop?

EDIT: I'm already in the process of moving out but due to COVID-19 my plans have been postponed for a few months, but until then I'm stuck at home.

EDIT #2: I can't put a lock on my door. She would just bang on it and yell at me until I woke up and unlocked it.

Submitted July 02, 2020 at 07:24PM by freshThrowaway12345 https://ift.tt/3dXpDeR