My boyfriend won't tell anyone we are dating until things are "proving to work", is this okay?

Hi you guys. Im at a loss. Please read before making an opinion, I'm not sure how to feel myself. Thanks for reading at all for starters. Im 23 and he is 21. We have dated for 2 and a half years now. You can skip to the TL;DR if you don't want to many details. I would really like to show other peoples take on this whole thing to him as well once I see what others have to say.

To start. Nobody knows we are dating. From being the best guy I've ever dated, to being the most back and forth relationship so far, we are back to trying to make things work. He has broken my trust completely before, as I have him. Things have hit the worst point they could be, we split up and now, we are trying again.

This time he has put more effort in then he has in 2 years and it's been a week and a half. Im still scared of all of this, but I want it to work. Things are going good. Everything if fine and are going that way. We are both putting in effort, but there's a catch. He told me he won't tell anyone including his friend's we are dating, until he knows it'll work. We already are though. I'm not sure how I feel about this. When I asked about it, he sent me this.

"And I'm not gonna listen to ****** tell me how stupid I am for this if he's gonna be right. I'm not gonna say anything till I know he's wrong "

I guess none of the people in his life know much at the moment. So nobody knows if things fall though? Is this to cause less drama for him? Okay. I get it. Yet. Wouldn't that mean I never existed to them? My family knows the current situation. And that he is around. So I don't know. Is this okay or not?

TL;DR Im 23 and he is 21. We have dated for 2 and a half years now. The relationship has been great, to really rough and we are trying again to make it work. He's given a ton of effort the past week and a half. He told me he won't tell anyone including his friend's we are dating, until he knows that it'll work though. Considering how things used to be, I know he doesn't want to look bad if they fail again. That's why. Is it okay for him to ask to wait for them to know until things are solid, for the fact of their opinion, or is it wrong of him to do that to me? Is this okay or not?

I'm trying to make things work. Im sad and confused and really don't know if this is okay or not. I'll show him what you guys think too, and maybe we can figure this out.

Submitted July 03, 2020 at 01:37PM by ThrowRAdoigoorstay https://ift.tt/2C2SfGo