I (M19) asked my ex girlfriend and best friend (F19) to change some social media captions about me, which turned into a revelation that I have always been a problem to her.

My ex-girlfriend (F19) and I (M19) broke up last April after two years of dating. She said it was because we got into way too many arguments, but we could still be best friends and if I worked on myself there could be a way for us to get back together sometime soon. We never talked about our relationship on social media, and if we had problems we would talk about it privately, as friends or as a couple. We did almost everything together for two and a half years, together and broken up. She said I was her best friend which made me feel like I was working in the right direction.

There were times we disagreed, but it was because of me getting her a Christmas present or her arguing that I was making a situation about me when I was only trying to tell her I understood where she was coming from.

Things were going okay until in February, the college I was planning to transfer to changed housing rules during the transfer process, and I couldn't go anymore due to money. She blamed me for not being able to go to the college and stopped talking to me. She said I was too needy, always stressing her out and that our friendship was mostly toxic and unhealthy. I didn't think it was that bad between us, saying how we have had positive times as friends, but still gave her space hoping things would change.

I tried to contact her about what happened and check up on her with everything happening in the world, but she didn't want to talk to me which I understood. Word got back to me that she was posting on social media about "How guys can't take a no thank you" and "I've finally spoken the truth for a year and if that's a problem then leave" to an account of hers I wasn't allowed to follow. These were posted after days I would try to talk to her throughout quarantine, so it was clear she was talking about me and my actions on her page.

Last night I texted her saying that I knew she was talking about me on her social media and if she could just at least change the captions on those posts because it was upsetting me, and people we both knew were figuring the posts out, and also out of respect for each other. Well that didn't go too well.

She responded saying how I shouldn't be upset over the posts when she's been the one hurt the most in our relationship, if I was hurt imagine how she felt in the past. I asked why tell me now, she replied I always forced what I wanted on her and that she was always trapped no matter what, that I ran her patience out and took advantage her giving chances so she bottled her emotions with me. She says telling her friends about our relationship on social media now isn't a problem and doesn't owe me an apology, that she would have talked about me on social media in the past but didn't until now. And also I should stop playing the victim because I wasn't the one being hurt the most throughout the past three years and should let her be the person she wants to be.

She never told me these feelings even as friends and I'm hurt thinking that I'm the reason everything fell apart and I've caused someone this much pain and hurt. I need unbiased input on if I was in the wrong the whole time.

TL;DR: Ex and I broke up last April, remained friends until this year, she posted about me on social media, so when I asked her to change the captions she told me the truth about how she felt which was never said until today. I feel like I ruined the relationship and everything after and need input from outside sources.

Submitted July 04, 2020 at 07:37PM by asylumhorrors https://ift.tt/2Z1ZPKl