My friends are gonna laugh at me if they see this, because they know about this but here goes. Some small details smudged for privacy. Throwaway for obvious reasons.
I am a 24 year old lesbian woman. I am socially awkward, on the autism spectrum, and a virgin. I’ve never dated; only kissed. On a dating app, I’ve been trying to meet people – I usually make the first move, try to open discussions, ask about interests, etc. People don’t usually reply or the conversation bleeds a slow death.
It’s online dating, so it’s what I expected, especially nowadays.
However, a woman just messaged me on my profile. She’s supposedly a 42 year old woman, very good looking. She lives relatively near me (in a different city, but close enough that travel wouldn’t be an issue). She’s looking for a discrete sub. She seems nice enough, has a good job and appears to be stable and sane.
I guess my question is… how the hell do I know if this is something I should go for? How do you know if this is a decision you go for? When do you step out of your comfort zone in these kinds of situations?
I am interested in experimenting with these things, but I have zero experience in any of that. I also don’t know if I should be going for an older woman like this. There's also the whole "what if I get murdered" worry part.
I guess I’m just worried I’ll miss out – because on one hand I do want this and want these experiences, but on the other hand they terrify me and I’m way too introverted to handle these situations well. My life is good – stable, but in some ways boring. I’ve missed a lot of opportunities for these kinds of “interesting” decisions because I’m risk-averse. I work a good stable job for good money (especially for my age) with promising growth potential and had a major promotion last year. My apartment is nice and relatively big in a large metropolitan area. I got the education I was expected to get, wear the clothes I am expected to wear, etc.
How do you know when to go after an opportunity and when not to? What decisions should I be making about stuff like this? Dating hasn't really been going well, but what she's offering is something I would like to try... I just don't know if it's wise that would be my first time period. Dipping my toe into it seems crazy.
How do I decide what to do? And if I decide to meet with her, what the hell do I do then?!
Tl;Dr how do I decide whether or not meeting up with an older woman off a dating website is a good idea or not?
Submitted July 03, 2020 at 08:54AM by scaredmissoutthrow https://ift.tt/2VIq7Pz
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