I just had surgery to remove an abscess growing in my womb. It's been a long and drawn out nightmare. Long nights of waiting to be seen, driving home for a shower and a meal before coming back. My boyfriend of five years has been doing his best. He cooks, cleans, drives me to my appointments and helps me at home. He's been great. I had surgery today and he even booked the day off to be there for me. He sounds dreamy, right? Well he is.
The problem is... I think he's grumpy and distant with me because I'm unwell. We haven't had sex in over a month because of how unwell I've been, and he's been there for the gross stuff. Waking up to a bloody bed, etc. I've not really been taking care of myself lately because I've been so preoccupied with my trips to the hospital that I haven't really done more than just take care of my personal hygiene, but as for shaving my legs and stuff, I haven't bothered. I feel unattractive, but that's normal, isn't it?
He's been more grumpy than usual lately. He even snapped at me as soon as we got home because I needed help getting dressed and into bed and I just burst into tears. Maybe he's just frustrated. I keep asking him if he's mad at me and he says no, but he looks like he resents me for being unable to do things for myself for the time being. I'm usually the 'house wife', but now that he's been left with the chores well... he isn't happy.
I hate being made to feel guilty for him doing everything but what can I do? I tell him all the time how much I appreciate what he's doing for me, but I feel like he doesn't really care for it.
Should I just let it go or confront him about how he's making me feel?
Thanks
TL;DR Boyfriend has been left with the responsibility to look after me and the house during my recovery period, and while he does all of his 'duties' as my partner, he's grumpy and snappy and ultimately making me feel awful about being unwell. Not sure what to do.
Submitted January 20, 2020 at 01:41PM by throwawayaccount0208 https://ift.tt/2TJ3pXC
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