My (25F) boyfriend (26M) has been acting strange about a friend of his. Am I wrong for thinking these flags are bright red?

Back story- My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years. We have a fairly happy relationship, kinda strained cause life, kids and we had a rough pregnancy.

He has this friend that he was being really mysterious about. I noticed later that this friend, let's call her B, is liking everything he is doing on social media. Weird. I don't even notice everything he does on social media but upon reflection, there she is.

He insists she's just a friend. I peek at his phone (yeah, I know) and their messages are completely deleted. Aside from Instagram messages from the days when our LO was born saying what a cute baby, I miss you, where do you live? I'm going to leave my boyfriend. To his credit, he was friendly and at the end diffused with something to the effect of he was unsure if I would be comfortable with this conversation. (That was great. But why would I be uncomfortable with him just talking to a friend?)

Also found a message of him saying to his friend that he had tried to get with her for seven years. (When asked about this, Bf says he was just trying to hook him and her up? Later in that convo BF does say to the guy BF will put in a good word for him with B)

Fast forward to now- His story has changed about her and their friendship so many times I will not even waste the time to type it out. He recently said he's been thinking about her for a while and wants to reach out but wasn't sure if she would reply. (Flag) but of course, she did. Cue smiling and endless texting. I spoke my piece about being supportive of whatever relationships make him happy (he says they have a connection over shared trauma which I want to completely respect and adds a layer of ugh to it all) and just wanting honesty. YES YES YESSES OF COURSE BAAAAAABE WE WILL TELL EACHOTHER THE TRUTHHHHHHH, as he changes his phone screen and makes little jokes about how I must be curious or jealous (flag - isn't this just your friend ???)

My boyfriend and I typically are not bit texters to eachother during the day as we are both focused on work etc but oh you bet your bottom he's texting her all the time and a complete freak about his phone and jokes about how if I tried to look at it what if he had a trap (? lol ok)

I haven't tried to look at it and mainly I'm trying to be a supportive partner because I have past experience of being cheated on so I don't want any insecurities on my part to negatively impact a relationship in his life.

That being said I feel weird about it and I have tried asking him but he will not budge and he told me no matter what if I asked him not to talk to her, he would never do that. He is not reassuring me. I just don't know what to do. I don't think he's ever cheated on me but now I am beginning to wonder if he has or is emotionally??

Or am I just super overthinking?

Tldr- basically my bf is just super mysterious/dishonest and way to eager about one of his friends and it makes me feel uncomfortable which he doesn't seem to mind and I don't know what to do. I kinda am wondering about emotional cheating.

Submitted January 24, 2020 at 06:40AM by Whyyyyyyyyyytho https://ift.tt/2U5JYbN