I (26M) broke up with my gf (22f) after she left me alone on a coffee place while i went to the bathroom

So, me and my now ex gf were together since May 2019.
To be honest, this is not even the first time i put something related to this relationship, but I feel this is the most extreme case.
Things were never perfect, and I have been feeling that my now ex had something going on inside her head, in terms of personality and way of seeing relationships.
Basically, for her a boyfriend is something similar to a paternal figure, who is there not to help her fix her problems, but fix her problems. She always felt very entitled to have all my free time and entitled that I could not speak to other girls (friends of course, as I would not be flirting with other people while I am in a relationship) and always questioning who I am with, going full questionnaire mode, which is something I do not like, because I have a very liberal approach and I choose to live like that: she can do whatever she wants without disrespecting me, meaning that she can go out with her friends and party, as long as she does not do stuff that would hurt me (flirting, going on dates, the stuff that single people would do). In the beggining she was finding this weird, as I would not really care if she was with her friends, its her life and she is free. But this was not mutual, but was something that would massacre my head. I told her many times, and one day she even took my phone out of my hands to see who I was talking to. I told her it would be the first and last time she would do that.
Anyways, this is just a small recap of what my relationship had been. People may ask "why were you with her then?" simply because of the fact that I care about her a lot and she had been a good company for here in the place where I live.
So, thins havent been famous since lets say Thanksgiving: she got mad that i did not spend thanksgiving with her. I had to come to see my family who lives 4 hours away from where I live and that is not debatable. We were trying to bring her, but she had her mom in town that was leaving by plane that day, so travelling that day to go see my family was out of question, as we would arrive very late for the thanksgiving. But as you imagine, she started saying that if I indeed wanted her to come to thanksgiving, I would have found a way for her to come. First, I do believe I dont have to bring whoever to my family gatherings, and I never felt much interested in presenting her to the family as of the state of things were. But she found a way to massacre me.
So, bad things started here.
But the biggest straw was two weeks ago. I recently bough a car (with lots of hard work and saving) to make my life easier. her parents pay for the Uber for her to go work, meaning that spend a big chunk of money every month, but money that they are willing and can pay.
She asked me to start to drop her to work. I said no, as It would be a big commute for me and would take sleep hours from me and quality of life. She got very upset at me.
Meanwhile I had gone to the bathroom.
After 5 minutes i return to the table, and Gf had left. No text message, no small paper ticket saying that she was leaving, nothing. I even asked the bartender and he had that cringe face and said "perhaps she went to the bathroom". So I waited one hour for some response, but nothing.
Two hours later she tells me was crying because she was feeling very bad and now wanted to be alone.
I said that was the last straw and I ended stuff. I was just so tired.
The things is that, i have gigantic ton of feelings for her, but they are mixed. She is the type of person that is very emotional and she does not know how to express herself in a polite way: she will write gigantic whatsapp texts, instead of giving me a call (and I asked her many times to do this instead of writing but she does not care). I feel that things have to be her way. A week ago she said for me not to reach to her anymore. Two days later she texts me like nothing happened. I care for her, she was my first person in this country which was important for me, she is very good looking, all my friends say I should totally leave her and dont look back, but I still feel in the thing of "perhaps she will change"
What should I do here? Move on, even if that costs, or give another chance?

TL;DR: Gf left me alone in a coffee place after in the past having behaviors that try to put the blame on me and I broke up, but I feel in the limbo of moving on or giving a chance.

Submitted January 24, 2020 at 01:26PM by peidinho21 https://ift.tt/2NUNUbq