My [23F] boyfriend [39M] is pushing for an open relationship even though I made it clear I'm against it. How do I make him understand?

Edit: That mess is done and over with, I'm a single pringle now. Thank you for taking the time to knock some sense into me. Big virtual hug for everyone!

We've been together for about an year now and most of it has been smooth sailing. He's sweet, we don't argue a lot, we have the same interests etc. Spending time with him is comforting to me. He's a genuinely kind person so it's pretty surreal to me that this is happening.

This all started a little over a month ago when he told me he's interested in having an open relationship with me. He said it so casually I thought I heard him wrong at first.

(Just to mention I'm all for people who live the lifestyle they want to live but for me personally an open relationship is just a big huge effing no. I'm just not that kind of person.)

So after I asked him where that came from and if he was serious I just told him I'm definitely not comfortable with the idea. He just shrugged and that was that. Or so I thought.

For the past month he kept bringing it up and I tried to calmly said no but today when he condescendingly told me "I don't know why you're so against it, isn't it trendy right now?" I kind of snapped and I told him that I was not ok with him sleeping with other girls and that I was hurt he would share me so easily. He then kind of laughed and had the nerve to say that even if we were in an open relationship I probably won't sleep with guys because I'm so loyal.

????????????

I grabbed my stuff and left. We haven't spoken since then and he is blowing up my phone with messages that are mostly him covering his ass with "I didn't mean it like that."

Honestly is there any way to explain this to him properly so he understands? I feel like our relationship is doomed if he doesn't drop it.

tl;dr I told my boyfriend that I'm not comfortable with an open relationship. He keeps pushing me and it resulted in a fight. I don't know how to move past this without ending our relationship. Is there a way to make him understand?

Submitted January 25, 2020 at 07:36PM by unicornpi314 https://ift.tt/30WoAGY