I have known our mutual friend, Britney, for roughly 3 years now. We've each seen eachother go through the ups and downs of different relationships, gone on trips, and even lived together for a short time.
About six months ago, Britney set me up with Grant. I had seen Grant all over her social media in the past year after they met, but never met him until the set up. He was in tagged photos, comments, etc, I thought he was cute but clearly into her. Britney assured me they were just friends and he was basically perfect for me, and even if she wasn't taken that she wouldnt want him anyway. She had a boyfriend at the time.
Eventually Grant and I grew more serious, exchanging I love yous, and making plans for the future. At one point he did admit to having a thing for Britney before but said he didn't now that he and I are together.
Things all seemed to change around Christmas when Britney broke up with her boyfriend. Suddenly Grant became distant, and started to appear all over her social media again. He stopped posting about me, and hid our relationship status. I've never read into things like this before, and we live in a relatively small town so everyone knows we're together anyway-- it was just the timing of it.
I know they're not hanging out but he's all over her socials again and they are texting constantly. I tried to talk to Britney about it the last time her and I went out and she apologized for making me uncomfortable, but I didn't know what I expected to change so I just dropped it.
Everything came to a head for me then other day when she posted a bunch of selfies and Grant responded "Gorgeous!" With a heart. I asked him about it, and he just shrugged it off, saying "well you cant deny she is" and hasn't seemed the same towards me since. I apologized for it making me uncomfortable but that didnt seem to make a difference. He's since been hiding his phone from me, which is weird because the thing I saw was public anyway.
I cant explain what I'm worried about. It's just a gut feeling. I believe Britney when she says she doesnt want to date Grant (she's actually seeing a new guy who I've met and I know is super into her) but I also think she really likes the attention too much to really put him in his place. On the other hand, I think Grant is still holding onto the possibility of them getting together one day. I've never been cheated on before (that I know of) or experienced these thoughts of jealousy and uneasiness, so I really dont know where to go from here.
Tldr: The friend that originally set me up with my boyfriend, seems to be undeliberately driving a wedge between us. I'm not sure what to do about my feelings of jealousy and uneasiness as I've never felt them before, but would like advice on how to proceed before I lose either one or both of them.
Submitted January 23, 2020 at 12:28PM by justbeforecoffee https://ift.tt/2Ggj1tC
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