My [M40] daughter [F20] is dating her high school teacher [M30ish]. She wants me to meet him for Christmas

For the last 12 months, my daughter has been dating her high school teacher. They moved in together two months ago. She has confessed to me that they were seeing each other during the last two months of her senior year. She was 18 at the time.

During her senior year, her mother [F39] and I were wrapping up a nasty divorce. She lived with her mother at the time. We both had no clue.

I don’t want to meet this guy. Not only does he sicken me, but I hate myself for not watching my daughter more closely during the divorce. I feel guilty about initiating the divorce and not being there to protect her.

Today my relationship with my daughter is friendly. We have dinner once a week. She comes to me for finical advice and consults me on how to best adult.

It’s getting harder to avoid this guy. He showed up at a school concert and meet her mom. Clearly my daughter is excited about the relationship.

I want to tell them both: 1. I support my daughter. If she wants to date him, that’s their business. I will not stand In the way. 2. I don’t want to meet him socially, ever. 3. That I see him as a child predictor who struck at girl who was going through a rough time.

What’s the best way to do that? With both of them? While I careless about his feelings, I want to protect the relationship I do have with my daughter.

TL;DR teacher started dating my daughter while parents went through divorce. She has started introducing him to family. I don’t want to meet him.

Submitted December 19, 2019 at 11:21PM by sandman200 https://ift.tt/36TCXO9