My boyfriend of 2 years doesn't use a knife while eating, slurps any type of soupy food that he has, eats so fast and doesn't really talk to me until he's fully over with what he's having. He uses a spoon to eat what you'll normally eat with a fork and a knife.
I ate with his family and it's worst there since his entire family seems to have this problem. The table is just a mess midway through a dinner we might be having with his family and I just feel disgusted and frustrated.
I've observed that when we eat with my friends, they notice his bad table manners which is quite embarrassing. I confronted him a few times telling him that he's very loud and it kind of spoils my appetite and he told me that is a racist thing to say (he's half Asian but grew up in the States). He said that's how Asian people eat, and I shouldn't impose Western table manners on him. I have a lot of Asian friends that I frequently eat out with but I didn't see any of them eating like him.
I'm worried this might impact our relationship because it's just something I care about since culturally, eating food with people is a big part of my life.
I just wanted to throw this out there to hear some advice, or a similar experience that can share with me how they handled it (if they handled it).
TL;DR! - Boyfriend won't change his table manners because he believes that it's a culture thing
Submitted November 22, 2019 at 02:07PM by cornercubist https://ift.tt/2KNKMfN
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