My 29F husband 27M has really been hurting my feelings lately and he doesn't genuinely seem sorry about it.

So a little backstory, we've been together almost 10 years and married for 2+. We have 2 kids, 9 and 1 with another on the way. Third baby was unexpected but we are still happy, because we wanted one more eventually.

Anyways, lately I feel as though he is being a jerk almost on purpose to me. Maybe it is unintentional, I hope so. Here are a few examples of what I'm talking about.

Just last night at a friend's get together we were both conversing with a friend's dad. We were talking about occupations and my husband told the man what he did. Then my husband proceeded to say that I didn't work. I'm at STAHM and I did take offense. It was embarrassing because I feel like for a second I looked like a freeloader. After a few seconds I interrupted and said (looking at my husband), " Hey, I'm at STAHM so yea I do work, I just dont leave the house to do it. You might want to try rephrasing that." The man kind of chuckled and agreed with me, and my husband laughingly corrected himself. I let it go with a smirk and walked off, not bringing it up again.

Just earlier that day, we were making a pit stop at the grocery store to grab a few items. We had our baby with us. I got her out of the car and we started walking to the store. It was just a little ways but our baby is right at 25 pounds so I asked if he could take her, as I was starting to struggle to keep her up. He told me it looked like I had it and he kept walking. Then there weren't any baskets, so he left me standing there struggling with the baby to go get one. Once I got her in the basket, I mentioned how that was kind of a jerk move, seeing as how I'm pregnant and shes hard to carry. He just said, "yea well my foot hurts,." I reminded him that I'm pregnant and that every step I take hurts as well ( i had a previous injury that's left me with chronic pain in my right foot/ankle). He then apologized and said he was sorry. But it just doesn't feel genuine. I said that it didn't and so he laid it on a little thicker, maybe he really was sorry, I dont know.

Then, tonight he got nasty with me because he had to stop what he was doing to start a load of his own laundry. He asked me if I could do it for him and I just gave him the "really" look. I was cuddling up on the couch with our 9 year old who I hadn't really seen all day, I didn't feel like getting up to wash his clothes for him. He literally acted like a teenager after that, huffing and puffing all pissed off looking. I asked if it was because I didn't start the load and he said yea.

I've secretly starting boycotting his laundry and generally picking up after him because he is a slob and I'm tired of being a 24/7 house keeper. Even when I do his laundry and all I ask is for him to put it away, he doesn't. It's just gotten to the point that I cannot do it all anymore. He was seriously mad at me because of that, which really irks me bc I usually as in 98% of the time, do his laundry. Its only been in the last 2 weeks that I didn't fold his clean clothes and I haven't started a load of his clothes.

Sorry if this is all just a rant or vent, but basically I just wanted to get some feedback. Am I being to sensitive? Maybe it is partly my hormones. But it just seems like hes becoming more and more of a jerk to me with the things he says and his complete lack of doing anything around the house, unless I ask about 5 times. We will be going to couples counseling in the near future, but we can't afford it right now. Should I just let the little things go? It's probably not worth me getting upset, but it's still hard for me to hide my feelings when I feel hurt and or mad at certain things he says/does. I'm really trying to see the good things and not focus so much on the negative aspects, but it is hard. Thank you for reading, if you got this far, I really appreciate it.

TL;DR my husband has been hurting my feelings more recently and I feel like he just doesn't really care; am I being overly sensitive? Should I just let the little things go?

Submitted May 27, 2019 at 09:51PM by Cmogolowfoyo http://bit.ly/2VS9yhC