My [25 F] roommate [35 M] wants to ask our other roommate [23 F] to find a new place to live. Is there a tactful way to do this?

I [25 F] have been living in my current house for just over 2 years. For the first year, the housemates consisted of me, my roommate “Dan” [35 M], and “Lisa” [26 F]. We all got along great, respected each other’s volume limits and schedules, all had similar cleaning habits, and occasionally went out for a drink or two. There never seemed to be any issues and we were sad to lose Lisa when she moved to another state to start a grad program.

When it was time to find a new roommate, Dan and I turned to the renter’s group on Facebook where he and Lisa first met me. After interviewing several candidates, we settled on “Jen” [23 F], who seemed to be a good fit at first. We were clear about keeping common areas clean, when our alarms are set, and the need for quiet after about 10:30 on weeknights.

In the time that she has lived here, Jen has never taken out the garbage, never mowed the lawn, and almost never does the dishes unless we explicitly ask her to. There are often flies buzzing above the sink because she won’t wash food off her plate before tossing it in, and it is frequently so full of her cups & plates that we can’t even get a glass of water from the tap. She also stuffed the freezer so tightly that we can’t even fit an ice cube tray inside it, and for a long time the fridge was the same way. I have found food rotting in containers on the floor that she has forgotten about and never cleaned, which I had to scrub and throw away myself because the smell was so terrible.

One day, Dan texted us with a plan to organize the cabinets and fridge by shelves labeled with our names so that we could clear up some space and generally make it clear whose items were whose. When I arrived home to help him, Jen’s car was gone and I assumed she was at work. No big deal, I understand we all have busy schedules and can’t always find a time to get together. So Dan and I are taking everything out of the fridge, wiping stains off of the plastic shelves, cleaning residue, and generally reorganizing. When this long process is finally finished, Jen waltzes out of her room, having not helped at all and heads out the door. Her room is right next to the kitchen, so she heard us cleaning and just decided not to help us move her rotten food out.

There have been other problems as well, such as her arriving home at 3am yelling at her boyfriend on the phone for all to hear, and getting caught doing a line of coke off the coffee table (which I might not have even taken issue with except for the fact that we have two cats that could have died if they ingested any of it that she missed). Then there’s the issue of the thermostat, which she enjoys keeping at 60-65 degrees whether it’s summer or winter. We had an electric bill that came to $300 one month, which of course we had to discuss with her.

Dan is fed up and has told me multiple times that he plans on asking her to move out and not renew the lease. I’m frustrated as well, but I’m still unsure about kicking her out. I’ve never had to confront someone about this before and I don’t even know how to approach that conversation. Even after typing everything out, I still recognize she’s a nice person who is extremely messy and forgetful, but after she’s ignored our requests I’m not really sure what else to do and think he might be right.

How can we politely approach this? There’s just over a month before the lease ends, and I’m not sure if that’s enough time.

TL;DR - Roommate #1 wants to ask our other roommate to leave because she never cleans and is generally quite inconsiderate.

Submitted May 27, 2019 at 08:22AM by wrpnt http://bit.ly/2X50TK8