Listen.
I love my parents more than life itself.
I’d do anything and everything for them.
But the past two months have been the most hectic in my life.
Let me rewind and start off by saying I just started a new job where I work about 70 hours weekly, and during our busiest weeks about 85-90. This was very stressful and so I called my parents a few times breaking down from the stress of being on my feet in the kitchen for 15-17hrs straight with no breaks, commuting home, mean coworkers, etc.
I dropped the ball a bit and let some important things go, as I moved right at our peak busy point, so I never got around to setting up my utilities, getting my car worked on, etc.
My parents thought I was lying so my mom (who doesnt work) flew out without telling me to come & “help”.
Well that was 2 months ago. I am now at my wits end. And she is not understanding that I just want space. Ive always kept to myself for whatever reason and now its like she is just forcing herself in my life & knows as long as shes here, I cant keep anything to myself. She washed ALL of my clothes & underwear, even the clean ones, and made a big production of it, but I know she just wanted to see what clothes I wear and make mental notes if it was inappropriate or not, ans whether the brands were expensive or not.
I like being alone. I like having space. The past two months I have had niether. And she keeps saying how she is giving me relief, taking stress off of me, helping. And she was at first! She was there to accept furniture I needed delivered, there to let the cable guy in to set up stuff. But now its, kind of like a burden.
I cant have my car because without it she cant get around, so she drops me off at work and picks me up, something she enjoys since me & my brothers havent needed that since we were children. I hate it because before & after work is the time I use to clear my mind and just prepare for the stress of the day and unwind after. It also means I have to wait for her to get ready in the morning and wait for her at night after I clock out.
Also, like I said, she doesnt work. So i pay for most things, including the fact that my utilities have gone up since shes been here.
I had a routine and now its in shambles and so is my mental health. She has some health issues and it stresses me out. Sometimes food causes her to get extremely ill randomly, we went out for the night and she ate something bad and ended up projectile vomiting the entire way back to the car, while I had to sit there and debate taking her to the hospital (again, I already took her to the ER once while shes been here, after a 15hr shift).
She keeps saying “one more week, I just need to get a few more things done that you dont have time for” but now I think its an excuse.
My little brother came back from a deployment and cut my entire family off. He’s stationed in Germany. You’d think she’d fly out there and make sure he’s ok right?? Shes also unhappy with her marriage to my dad and keeps mentioning this to me, and when she was doped up on morphine in the hospital she basically expressed she regrets marrying my dad and the only reason she hasnt offed herself is because of me and my brothers existing.
IM SO TIRED. I JUST WANT TO WORK AND ENJOY BEING IN MY 20s!! INSTEAD I HAVE TO DEAL WITH MY MOTHER AND HER ISSUES, MY JOB THAT I HATE, AND I START BACK AT UNIVERSITY NEXT WEEK BECAUSE I NEED TO TAKE SOME FINAL LAST CLASSES.
I genuinely feel like Im about to go off the deep end.
How do I politely tell her she needs to go?
I want to have my life back. She said she doesnt mind if I go and hang out with my friends all the time but I know shes just saying that, sometimes she slips up and complains how she is bored sitting at my apartment all day. And I tell her, COME BACK WHEN IM NOT BUSY WITH WORK AND SCHOOL. And its like talking to a brick wall.
I hate this. I dont want to be the bad guy here but I dont want our relationship to be permanently damaged from her becoming my unofficial roommate.
TL;DR: My mom wont fly back home, keeps coming up with excuses, causing me more stress on top of the overwhelming stress I already have. How do I tell her to (politely) leave?
Submitted November 17, 2018 at 07:30PM by yourelovely https://ift.tt/2TobU7F
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