In advance, I apologize for my poor English, I fuck up articles quite a bit.
Backstory: I've been with her for two years, everything is going fantastic, she gets along with my kid, respects my culture, has visited my country numerous times and loved it, gets along with my mom, I get along with her parents. Everything is great except one issue.
I grew up dirt poor. When I was living in home country, it was okay, then everything went to shit in 90s. My father, who was one that made money in family, went to war, got killed. Five years later, when I was 18, another war broke out, I got called, went to war, got married not long before with pregnant girlfriend. She had kid, then I went to war. When my wife was at work, she got hit by a bomb, my son was with his grandparents then. I immigrated to Canada 8 years ago, with son. Very hard time when I first came, I was very poor. But, I made living, worked hard, now, I have my own business and make a great amount of money (almost seven figures).
My wife, she has habit of saying how you can only be born into class. You cannot obtain class. You either have, or you don't. I don't agree with this. Where I lived, we never mentioned class, except to make fun of "rich" people when they had so much credit on mobile phone account, we would call them Bourgeois. No one cared where you come from, only what you are now. This is very foreign to me.
What makes this even more strange, my girlfriend's mother's side is middle class at best, more lower-middle class. Her father's side is old money, but they used all of money and have nothing left now. I am better off than they. My mother is even better off than they, and she has tiny pension in fucked up country.
But she keeps saying this "never marry outside of your class," "you can only be born with class," "you cannot buy class," and similar. I may be upper class now, maybe. But I still think of myself as poor. I don't eat $200 lunches, I don't even stay at $200 hotel room. Too expensive. I don't buy what I don't need.
Once, she freaked out I took a plastic bag to pool. Why? Only low-class does that, others take a proper bag (I said to her, WTF, it's a bag, if it carries my shit, I do not care) and she was embarassed. Thats one example.
Is this maybe something cultural in Canada? Everything else is perfect with her, but I cannot get my mind to understand this. Any advice/insight I would appreciate very much.
Again, I apologize for my poor English. English is very difficult with those articles.
TLDR: Girlfriend, perfect in every other way, has view on class that I do not share.
Submitted November 17, 2018 at 11:09PM by jebotipasmajkubre https://ift.tt/2A4VIPN
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