My (29,m) wife (28,f) of 4 years, and girlfriend of another 11, recently told me she has been having an affair for the past 6 months. Can anyone relate? What do I do?

As the title implies, she told me last night she was in love with another person, further prodding revealed it has been physical in nature for at least half of that time. She met this guy in April/May.

The only warning I received was about a month ago saying she was unhappy, citing a lack of love, and romance in our marriage. I vowed to do everything in my power to fix that and get us back to a better place. Any of my attempts to be romantic, or show my love for her were met with a brick wall. I didn't realize it at the time, but she had already checked out, presumably because she was filling her need to be loved by another person.

Currently she is out of the house staying at her parents. Luckily we do not have children. I've already decided a divorce is imminent. I absolutely cannot be someone I will never trust again. Not like she is even entertaining the thought to stay and work things out.

The part that gets me the most, is that she never gave me a fighting chance to even try to make her feel loved. It should be noted that this has been entirely one sided. I've never loved this woman more than I have in the past 4 years of our marriage. We rarely fought, shared lots of laughs, and had what I felt to be a fairly healthy marriage, albeit one that needed help on the romance side of things. But she threw the last 15 years of our relationship out the door over a guy she literally just met 6 month ago.

How do I cope with losing someone I've spend over half my life with? I grew up with this person, from the 8th grade to now. She has shaped me into the man I am today. I have a strong relationship with my family and a couple close friends, and I will be leaning on them alot, but I need advice, any advice, on how to stay sane.

TL;DR

Wife/girlfriend, whom I have been in a relationship in for over half of my life at age 29, leaves me for a guy she met 6 months ago. What the fuck do I do now?

Submitted November 18, 2018 at 07:39PM by Cynergy17 https://ift.tt/2qTDWev