I'm(29/f) a SAHM with a 2 year old. My bf (32/m) is the breadwinner. We've been together for a little over two years, and moved in at four months. He doesn't want me to work until our kid's in elementary school. He believes that a mother's role is better served at home with the kids and that work isn't valuable enough for me. I was in the middle of culinary school when I got pregnant. I want to continue my school, so I can have a degree and work in the food industry. Boyfriend thinks that working in food is worthless because I don't make much money. I want to work part-time, maybe just the weekends to give me a sense of purpose. He says no, because he doesn't want to be stuck at home with the kid being "Mister Mom" as he puts it. For the most part, he has convinced himself that the best thing for our child is having a mom stay at home with them. So I get it's from a parenting style pov, but I don't agree with it. Staying at home is making me miserable, but does wanting to work make me a selfish parent? What if I'm willing to leave the relationship for that sense of purpose? (Background, he's not the father but a man I met when I was two months pregnant) We have other issues to add that make me wonder if he's the right guy for me. Just on the working issue alone, am I being selfish? He says I don't have my priorities straight, and that my family should be my first priority. Why can't I multitask and have a family and work? Before my pregnancy, I was working two, sometimes three jobs and going to school part-time.
TL;DR: I'm a miserable SAHM. I want to work part-time but boyfriend thinks I'm being selfish and don't prioritize my family. Am I being selfish?
Submitted November 17, 2018 at 01:53PM by LatterAnxiety https://ift.tt/2DsBYZT
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