Lost a friend of 15 years because I called out her insecure boyfriends bullsh*t after spending months trying to help him trust people agai, now neither will talk to me.

I've been stressing over this for months now, there's 15 years of friendship and backstory here so I'll try and keep it brief and simple. I'm female 32 and this sh*t has broken me.

I say best friend but she was more like the sister I never had (we'll call her K /f/28 now) met this guy (call him W/m/32 now) on tinder about 2 years ago, had a few dates and decided to get a house together after only a few months.

I liked him and thought K had finally met the one, so I was really happy for her. But after a little time K started to get really annoyed at how jealous and insecure he was, he caught his ex wife cheating on him.(divorce was going through at this point, which we all knew). So his behaviour was understandable. Anytime K would get a message or a phone call W would be over her shoulder asking who's that? What do they want? More intense questions if it was a male.

But over a year they were together I got really good friends with W and really helped him deal with all his inner demons and helped him learn how to trust people again. He even held it together and helped K get over a miscarriage.

Fast forward another 6-7 months. They've moved into a new house. K is pregnant again, 4 months gone, I'm god mother! Things are looking brilliant, we're all really excited.

About 5 months ago, W asks if I want to come over on the weekend and have a few drinks and play some video games with him and K. Sounded like fun (it wasn't). Obviously K didn't drink (8 months pregnant) and went to bed pretty early around 10pm.

Me and W stayed up a few more hours drinking and talking about all the usual bullshit people talk about while slightly drunk. Until we ended up in a conversation where I happened to mention that K used to live with her ex boyfriend(this was at least 7 years ago). At this point he stood up and started shouting "the lying bitch, the fucking lying bitch!"

He then ran upstairs to confront K and started screaming all sorts at her, 8 months pregnant don't forget. He then runs back down stairs with his car keys and tries to leave the house. I stop him and get many bruises for my troubles, he didn't hit me, just trying to push passed.

It's at this point a kind of gave him a lot of home truths and told him he can't be doing shit like this if he wants to be a dad and he needs to grow up and sort his insecurities out for good, and I'll help him as best I can like I have been doing. He calmed down after half an hour and eventually passed put on the sofa. K came down in tears afterwards thanking me and asking what the hell happened? I explained and then decided I should probably go home as I was in no mood for W bullshit again if he woke up (he'd done things like this before and k said it was probably a good idea).

So next day I text K asking if everything was OK, she said yes.

I sent a few more texts over the next few weeks, just checking in.

No reply, OK I thought. She's awful at texting back anyway.

It's been almost 2 months now and I know her due date is soon. I'm worried I haven't heard off either of them for nearly two months. I text both of them the same message asking if I've done something wrong. I get a message back of W.

You know what you've done, you've lied about K. You'll never step foot in our house again and you'll never have anything to do with our daughter. Don't contact us again.

Apparently K didn't live with her ex only stayed there. I didn't know this at the time. she used to stay there 5 days a week because it was 10 minutes away, rather than getting 2 buses that took 70 minutes. I'd call that living there right?

This was 4 months ago and there's been no contact since.

What did I do wrong here?

I have got a bad feeling that he's manipulating her and trying to alienate her from friends and family so he can have full control over her. I'm the only one who knows what he's like, not even her family knows. Think he felt threatened maybe?

I went through a very bad depressive and suicidal breakdown a few years ago and she was the person who saved me, I can't give up on her.

tl:dr In a casual drunk conversation i mentioned to my friends boyfriend that she used to live with an ex (7 years before they met) and he went mad and tried to driveway drunk but I stopped him and now they have both disowned me.

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Edit: Typo/grammar.

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Thanks everyone who commented, you've all helped reassure me that I did everything I could and sometimes this shit just happens.

Submitted November 04, 2018 at 01:14AM by emmanem1892 https://ift.tt/2D2ycGf