I am getting too emotionally invested in the FWB situation and think it's healthier for me to end things. We've been hooking up every week for eight months, text every day, go out with his friends sometimes, etc. It's basically become a weird pseudo open relationship. He recently told me he considers me his closest friend and that he thinks it's amazing we've both been able to keep up an actual friendship for so long while having sex and not catching feelings. I don't think I have caught feelings, but I'm definitely way more emotionally invested in it than I want to be. I was the one who initially told him I didn't want a relationship and yet now it feels like it's me who's more invested. He's continued to go out on dates with other girls because he wants a girlfriend, and since I'm his "closest friend" I get tasked with giving him dating advice and helping him with these girls he's seeing. I'm mostly fine with that, but it's starting to wear on me a little.
When we first hooked up I wanted nothing to do with relationships/monogamy (I've never had a relationship before), but now that I've been doing the FWB thing for a while I feel like I'm ready to give actual dating a shot and I don't think I can do that while continuing to sleep with my FWB. So I've decided to end things with him. However, he hasn't had any luck with women lately (this major crush he had/has shot him down recently) and he's stressed about seeing his family for the holidays. I feel bad cutting off things now since he considers me his closest friend, and I'm wondering if it would be better to wait until after the new year so he's not gloomy over Christmas. Thoughts?
TLDR Decided to end things with my friend with benefits, but should I wait until after Christmas so he's not bummed during the holiday?
Submitted November 18, 2018 at 12:02PM by ProperCalligrapher7 https://ift.tt/2FvGmKi
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