Feeling off-put by my (31F) boyfriend’s (31M) recent change in behavior. Not sure how to approach it.

So back story...we’ve been together for a little over 4 years and we’ve lived together for 3.

BF recently got a new job where he’s hit it off with some coworkers, which is great. I was happy to see him make some new friends after a few of his childhood friends moved away a couple years ago.

The problem is these new coworkers are all in their early 20’s and all they want to do is go out and get drunk all the time.

I should make it clear that I’m always invited with them and sometimes I do go, but it’s seriously every weekend and A. I’m over the bar hopping. I did that. I’m done. Every once in a while is fine but it’s not fun to me any more and it didn’t used to be for my BF either. and B. My body can’t physically handle drinking like that any more. When I hit 30 the hangovers just got so bad it’s not worth it to me.

He started going out with them about 8 months ago, but recently it’s become more frequent. He came home about a month ago and had gotten into a drunken fight, he was covered in his own blood and couldn’t even stand. I slept on the couch that night because he smelled so awful I couldn’t sleep next to him.

It’s about once or twice a month now that he comes home so drunk he can’t remember the night before.

I know he’s not cheating, all these coworkers are men and I see their snapchats, they’re just partying, but we also rarely have sex now, he turned me down just last week when I tried to initiate it, and I can’t tell you the last time him and I did something together just the two of us.

This new job change has been a really big deal and very stressful for him, and at first him going out with his coworkers didn’t bother me, but it’s starting to upset me now. I don’t even know why, it just is.

Any advice is helpful, I don’t even know what I’m looking for I guess, I’ve talked to him about this and how lately his behavior has been a little over the top and a couple things he’s done have made me pretty upset. He said he was going to throttle things back but now tonight he’s back out again.

I’m just kinda hanging out trying to sleep but I can’t because I’m feeling sad about things and I don’t know what to do.

TL/DR: boyfriend has started going out partying with younger coworkers and it bothers me.

Submitted November 17, 2018 at 01:17AM by lavenderandsol https://ift.tt/2FBy2bM