My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 yr but haven't driven together all that often due to the pandemic and nothing being open. As of a few weeks ago, we've started going places together and he frequently insists on driving. This has opened my eyes to a HUGE problem with him - he almost NEVER stops for yellow lights and frequently runs red lights.
If he is driving towards a yellow light, he won't stop, even if he absolutely can't make the light. If the light will be well and truly red by the time we get there, he will speed up AFTER it turns red, unless there is another car in front of him. He told me that yellow lights are a "suggestion" to stop and that it if the light has only been red for five seconds, it's ok to run the light. In three weeks, he's probably run something like 4-5 red lights. I told him there is NO law that says this, it is NOT safe to do, and that I will NOT be riding in his car if he continues this. He kept it up and I decided to stick to my principles and have not gotten back in the car!
He is furious and says I have no right to police his driving or tell him what to do. I told him that I won't get in the car unless he can find proof that this is acceptable practice OR if he stops doing it. His "proof" is that his entire family does it and insists he won't stop. I told him I still won't get in the car, I just don't feel safe! Now, he's very upset and has been snippy and short with me for days. When I ask whats wrong he says he doesnt like having a girlfriend who doesn't trust him and his judgement. He accused me of being abusive and controlling over this issue.
What the hell do I do? I don't want to get back in the car but this is such a stupid thing to end a relationship over. Can I get him to understand ANY sense?
Tl;dr: My BF disagrees with me over the purpose of yellow and red lights. Things are getting heated and I don't know what to do with him anymore.
Submitted May 03, 2021 at 02:19PM by Spirited_Ad8340 https://ift.tt/3nMtmT4
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