My best friend is going to marry a guy who I think very bad for her. She has substantial assets. Should I say something?

My best friend and I have known each other for about 30 years (we are both in our mid-30s and have been friends since we were little kids).

I made a terrible marriage choice in my 20s and married a narcissistic abuser. Our divorce was horrific and emotionally and financially devastating.

My friend is marrying a guy who frankly sounds a LOT like my ex. They got engaged 2 years ago and she just told me that they are planning to do a quickie courthouse wedding...this weekend. They gave up planning the big fancy wedding because of COVID.

I have gently tried to express some concerns about the guy in the past, and she got defensive and/or brushed them off, so I never pushed very hard. But I think she is about to make a huge mistake. I unfortunately know a lot about community property laws thanks to my expensive divorce. She is a very high net worth person, and she would stand to lose a lot of money in a divorce.

Should I be blunt with her and tell her I think she is about to make a huge mistake? I think she knows in her gut that her fiance is not a good guy. Yet, I have hinted at that, and it didn't go well. And she may just think my own bad experience soured me on marriage.

Should I say something or keep my mouth shut?

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tl;dr: Lifelong best friend is about to marry a jerk. Say something or keep my mouth shut?

Submitted May 07, 2021 at 05:04PM by Similar-Hunt-2734 https://ift.tt/3ewcFIG