Reposting as a new post as only one update is allowed. So the below is somewhat copied from my post earlier this evening but changed in places. Dh (40m) me (35f) ‐----‐------------------ Typing one handed mostly so apologies for mistakes. Please don't rehash or repost my post anywhere. Thank you to everyone who replied to my previous posts, im sorry I haven't responded especially to the very kind dms, we were all really unwell and I was sure we had covid it was so bad but thankfully just a nasty cold.
I'm typing one handed sitting in a&e with my sleeping kid in my arms. I don't know why I'm posting, I feel so angry and guilty, you know mum-guilt.
I went for a bike ride with my sister, this is the first time I've been out with her or had some me time since my last post. We went for 1.5 hrs. Sis made the mistake of snapchatting us cycling past wildlife. 10 mins later dh calls all mad about how we're just chatting and looking at wildlife and not exercising, he even text me that when my sis sent the sc but I didn't hear the notification. Hes all mad that he hasn't had a chance to shower and we need to getb2 kids to bed. I seriously thought he would have been on top of that. We were heading home anyways but now I'm dreading going home to a sulking husband.
I get home and he doesn't say a word to me, I get my outdoor gear off and check on the kids. Youngest is asleep on dhs chest and this is when dh finally tells me toddler hurt his arm an hour ago.
I checked our sleeping child out. I gave him panadol. His arms quite tender so I start getting a bag packed to take him to a&e, I think its a sprain but I'm worried and want tonbe sure. Dh says dra can't do anything about a sprain anyway and to leave it till.morning. I ice his arm and Google sprains and decide to take him in. He cries being moved.
I feel so guilty for going on a bike ride. He might not have hurt himself if I had been home. At this stage I don't think I'll feel OK going for a run or a bike ride or a meal with my siblings. I'm also really angry ay DHs poor communication. Anytime I've had to take anchikd to hospital or they've been hurt I've always called DH first and said look child is essentially OK but x yz has happened and so I'm going to do a b c. I would have rushed home as soon as it happened. He could have told me as soon as I got through the door. I just don't understand why he sat there looking mad until 5 mons later when I was right next to our toddler and saying hey ill pop him to bed, you go shower.
Sorry for typos. Its was a long wait, Friday night at A&E is packed but not as terrible as I though. Poor kiddo had a dislocated arm, fooking dh wanted to wait until morning to see how he was doing then. Glad I listened to.my gut and took him to a&e
Tldr: went for a bike ride with my sister and came back to a toddler having to go to a&e
Edit: thank you all. I just wanted to address the concern about my husband injuring my child. There is no way he did this. He is definitely not a violent person, he barely ever raises his voice to the kids and when he does its not yelling its just stern. He is much calmer with the kids then me, I came from a loud family and remain fairly loud (yet another thing that annoys DH, SIL is louder than me but I love it, I love her booming infectious laugh). He's very gentle with the kids, the only time he's yanked one of them was to stop him from scootering onto a road.
Also I know kids get hurt but mum guilt is a real and irrational feeling.
My concerns are more that DH didn't communicate with me, he could have called me as soon as the incident occurred AND he failed to do anything himself other than sit there and cuddle our child for almost an hour.
Submitted May 07, 2021 at 04:28PM by threeofsevenn https://ift.tt/3bbyBXm
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