So, I am mexican living in Europe (sorry, english is not my first language so you'll probably see some grammar mistakes). My parents died when I was young, so my uncle and his family (50sF aunt and 17M cousin) are one of the few family members I have left. They live in Mexico, and of course, as I don't have anyone else, they really mean a lot to me.
I love my uncle a lot, he's a great guy. He has always had a bit of money trouble, and has asked me to lend him money a couple of times many years ago. I declined over time because when I've needed money (my parents' deaths put me into a bad financial situation) they have never paid me back (I understand they do not have a lot of money, so I let it go).
He has been unemployed for more than one year, since covid started. I've been giving them money each month to help them out (not a lot, because I've been in furlough for almost a year), not expecting them to pay me back. I really stress out about their situation and try to help and call as much as I can.
I've been trying to help my uncle in many ways: recommended him to my last employer, bought him Udemy courses so he could study and make his portfolio (he's a programmer), etc, but still no job. Two months ago a friend asked me if I could redo his website and help him with some online advertising campaigns for his business. I didn't want to do it as I have a new and very stressful job, but I thought I could give the website to my uncle and give him the money (they really need it). I sent him the website, my redesigns and asked him if he could do it (it's a wordpress, a pretty easy job). He told me yes, so it was a deal.
I sent him the texts, photos and new website structure three weeks ago, and paid him a part (straight from my account). He told me everything was fine. Then silence. When I asked him about the website he told me he would send me a preview the next day. The next day, the same. And the same. When I started to get wary he told me his laptop fell and he had trouble restarting it. Then he told me he lost all the files and had to start again. I got serious and he called me and cried, profusely apologising and telling me that he loved me and was sorry, and that he would work it out. Next week, he told me he couldn't send me the link and I got mad and told him to send me something the next day or I will do it myself.
He finally sent me a preview today and it was... a pretty terrible job and nothing like my designs (or the content I sent him). I told him I couldn't send that to the client and that'll do it myself (I have to send a preview tomorrow) and told him I was pretty disappointed because now he had put me in the position to redo a website by myself in one day. I am very, very angry. I told him plenty of times to communicate with me so I could help or look for a plan B and he has been lying to me for weeks.
He's now sending me better versions of the first website he sent me (they're still not 100% ok), while telling me he's very sorry, he loves me and that he really needs the money. I feel angry but sad that they're struggling. I could still give him the rest of the money (I'd like to think he has been working really hard for this but he lied and didn't know how to do it) but frankly... I'll be working my ass off to cover for his mistakes... the least I could get is some money. But at the same time, I know they're in a really vulnerable position and I already have a steady job. What should I do?
tl;dr: I gave uncle a job redesigning a website. He's not sent me any preview for three weeks until today, and it's not good. I've been redesigning everything myself so I can send the client something, but he's pressuring me to give him another chance because he really need the money.
Submitted May 01, 2021 at 02:53PM by demonfuzz_ https://ift.tt/3xG54i8
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