I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I have a three year old daughter from a previous relationship (her father is no longer in the picture). I found out I was pregnant in January after birth control failure. My little boy will be here in early October.
When my bf and I first got together, he was everything I could have asked for. Constantly doting on me, he helped me financially a few times, telling me how much he loved me and cared for me, and he was so good with my daughter. I was so happy, and I thought he was too.
This lasted for maybe 6 months, and when we moved in together, it was like I was dating an entirely different person. He started to take hours to respond to my text messages, he never starts a conversation with me, he's always on his phone and spends more time talking to his videogame buddies than he does me. Our sex life went downhill, and as of now, it's pretty non-existent. He's still good with my daughter, and refers to her as his own, but he can be really short with her.
I was getting ready to break up with him in December, but then I found out we were expecting. He seemed thrilled at first, then skeptical, and once he realized it was really happening, it became a tolerable acceptance. I didn't want to split my family up again, so I powered through it.
What pushed me over the edge was when he was watching my daughter for the day while I worked. As I was leaving, the poor girl started bawling, genuinely. I asked him to make her feel like she was okay to stay with him for the day. Instead, he snapped at her to sit down and watch her show.
That was my breaking point. Even further, I texted him today asking how his day was going at noon, it's now 5:30 and he still hasn't responded, even though I know he's at home playing video games. He could care less about me, and now I'm confident that I've had enough.
I recently, and very fortunately, found a job where I'm making 12k a month, so I have no problem supporting my children on my own. I just don't know how I'm going to do this emotionally. I've been a single parent before, 2 kids seems overwhelming on my own.
Additionally, I have a very hard time talking to him about how I feel. He often gets dismissive of my feelings, and aggressive when I tell him he is doing something that hurts me. I don't know how to break up with him.
TL;DR - My boyfriend and I are expecting a baby together. My second, his first. He went from being loving and affectionate to barely acknowledging my existence. I'm ready to break up with him, but I don't know how to approach it.
Submitted May 03, 2021 at 02:35PM by Successful_Kale https://ift.tt/33dR80U
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