(ages and few other details changed to avoid someone I know seeing this)
So, a few months ago, I found out that my girlfriend at the time was cheating on me with a mutual friend. I found this out after being suspicious of their relationship for a while, and being told by everyone that I was overthinking it. Turns out I wasn't overthinking it, and she was full-on dating the other guy behind her back. I was pretty devastated, since we'd been together for nearly two years by that point. I considered staying with her because of our history, but I realised I'd never be able to trust her and that she wasn't the same person I fell in love with. I broke up with her, and cut off contact with our mutual friends that knew about it, but didn't tell me.
So, from my perspective, that was where it ended. I moved on from her, and tried to (still am) healing from that.
Except, that wasn't where it ended. A couple of weeks ago, me and my best friend were hanging out as usual, when he mentioned that my ex broke up with the guy she cheated on me with. Okay, I don't care about that man, I don't wanna hear about her. He started trying to tell me that she hadn't got over me yet, which I shut down by saying I didn't care and I don't wanna talk about her. He got the message, and changed the subject, which was good.
Then, a couple days later, my sister starts telling me that my ex is making posts on Facebook about "winning me back" or something, and how it's really sad. As in, my sister felt bad for her. I blocked my ex online after I broke up with her, because I didn't want to see any shit like that. I told her not to look at that girl's posts, or at least not tell me about them. My sister then got mad at ME for telling her that, and said I had a good reason to be mad, but that I was being really heartless(?) towards my ex. That really shocked me, because my sister was super supportive of me when we broke up. We ended up having a big argument about it, which really annoyed me, because I didn't even want to discuss it in the first place.
Then, only a few days ago, one of my other friends called me up and straight up asked if I'd consider getting back together with my ex. She said my ex "was really regretting what she did" and "it was a mistake on her part". I really got pissed off when I heard that, and kinda went off on my friend (which I do regret). She basically said that her and my other friends (including my best friend) thought my ex was being genuine with her regret, and that I should give my ex a second chance. I told her I wasn't gonna do that, and she said everyone in our friend group thinks I'm being a dick about not wanting to talk about it. I kinda cut myself off from everyone for the last couple of days to process this.
This whole thing has made me so fucking confused. I don't feel like I did anything wrong, but there's multiple people telling me I'm at fault, so now I'm just fucking confused. My sister was super supportive towards me when I broke up with my ex, but now it's like she's changed her mind as well. I don't understand what's changed, or why they're taking her side now? WTF has changed? Am I crazy? Am I a dick without realising it?
TL:DR I broke up with a cheating ex, and don't wanna get back together with her, but my friends are pushing me to do it and think I'm a dick for refusing to talk about it. Can someone please help me understand WTF is going on and if I'm being a dick or not?
Submitted May 02, 2021 at 11:55PM by ConfusedAbtFriends26 https://ift.tt/3aVF5cG
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