I started dating my boyfriend 9 months ago, so we're a fairly new couple. I've never brought my previous boyfriend's home or introduced them to my parents because they are not supportive of me (or any other young adult) dating. They moreso believe that I should just marry someone who can provide a good future and is manageable to deal with. That being said, I did introduce my current boyfriend to my family because I really liked him and I didn't want to tiptoe around my parents when it came to dealing with my relationship. I just didn't feel right keeping him a secret.
Anyways that was a pretty big mistake because they absolutely hate him, but try to act "supportive." Usually our conversations about him just ends up with them screaming to me about how horrible of a guy he is and then saying that they "want me to be happy."
Now, the problem is that I understand why my parents don't like him. For one, they come from a different culture where dating isn't really for love, but for status. And two, he's extremely different than us. He's a farmer, lives in the country, is an electrician, dropped out of college because of financial hardships (plans on going back though), and has parents who haven't gone to college. Whereas I'm in college, got accepted into an Ivy league university, plan on graduating 2 years earlier than most students, plan on becoming a doctor, am a city girl, and have parents who are both doctors. As you can see we're different, but I still think he's an awesome dude. He's super supportive of my goals and is always there for me.
I just feel like I've let my parents down because they're so upset about him being the person I'm dating. I feel like we have a very solid and good relationship, but I get these worries that I'm not being the daughter I should be. I guess I just wanted feedback from others to see if I'm making a mistake. Thanks.
TL;DR: I'm dating a guy my parents don't approve of and I'm just wondering if I'm letting my parents down by not being with someone who they like.
Submitted May 04, 2021 at 04:36PM by throwawaymyhomies https://ift.tt/3b3RRGb
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