So many things to start with. This is a throwaway account, I'm on mobile so sorry for any mistakes. I've marked this NSFW just in case and DO NOT STEAL THIS POST!! Also, I'm in the UK. Tldr at the bottom
I'm going to try and keep this as vague as possible while giving you as much information as I can, so I hope this makes some sense, but I am all over the place.
I (41F) moved in with relatives in September 2020 following the breakdown of my relationship.
These relatives have their 15 year old grandson living with them, I'll call him Bob. Bob is neuro divergent with some developmental delays and learning disorders. He has the mental age of 11-12, so not really that far behind his actual age but you can tell he's not a "typical" 15 year old.
We are part of a big family and I am generally the calming influence and safe place for everyone. All the kids talk to me - I don't judge them and we will have proper conversations about their feelings and how their doing. I used to be able to calm Bob down from his meltdowns when he was younger.
So Bob and I have been spending a lot of time together since I moved in (especially when the schools shut down and furlough) and he has told me he is struggling with feelings he has for me, he's dreaming about us having sex, he wants to touch me and act out these dreams and he has to really hold himself back.
I mean, what the fuck do I do with this information?? I've not freaked out on him and have explained that nothing is going to happen between us (we're related and he's a kid) but he thinks he's a monster for having these thoughts.
I think it's because I'm nice to him, we talk, have a laugh and stuff in common. I think he's confused because he loves me but it's different to the love he has for his mum and nan and his divergent brain can't categorised it for him so it's got mixed in with pubescent hormones and we're left with this.
I obviously need to move out as soon as possible, I don't feel like I'm in any danger but I want to hope that if I'm out of sight then I'm out of mind. I'm on the waiting list for social housing but I can't guarantee when I'll get a place and I can afford private rent on my own.
What do I say to Bob!? Who can I talk to about this, I want him to trust me but I can't keep this to myself! If I speak to my doctor about this would they have to speak to social services, he has younger sisters (they live with their parents and they are in regular contact). He's not a preditor, I feel safe around him but he's scaring himself and I know he needs someone else to talk to but I have no idea what to do next.
If anyone has any idea what to do, please let me know.
TLDR: a 15 year old male relative has told me he wants to sleep with me and is struggling not to act on these feelings. I'm not in any danger but I have no idea what to do next.
Submitted May 01, 2021 at 02:12PM by throwaway8508886500 https://ift.tt/3nHZozI
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