I know the title makes me sound like a big fat cheating degenerate but those were his words.
I (21F) have been with my boyfriend (22M) for about a year now and it's been an absolute treasure.
Well, I'm a digital artist on instagram. It's my main hobby as well as my main form of social interaction. Two years ago (before I even met my bf), my friends and I all decided to make NSFW art accounts for fun but I never really posted on mine. I have an interest in NSFW because I find it to be a good way to practice human anatomy/shading.
Well, yesterday my boyfriend for the NSFW account and asked me about it and I was truthful about it (granted I totally forgot it existed lol and I told him that). Well, he get's extremely uncomfortable with anything sexual. This includes adult humor and NSFW art, etc. I for one, am pretty open minded about that stuff but since I know he isn't okay with it I don't ever crack adult jokes around him or mention NSFW art or anything of the sort. Here's the issue though, he doesn't want me doing/expressing anything that's sexual in nature with anyone besides him. This includes the rare adult jokes I crack with my friends and posting NSFW even on a private account.
He completely blew up at me, saying that I kept this account from him knowing how he felt about this. I apologized and offered to delete the account but then it turned into a full blown argument. I wanted to understand why he was so uncomfortable with me sharing NSFW art with a select few friends and the only answer he gave me was that "it makes him uncomfortable" and "My girlfriend being sexual with other people makes him uncomfortable". I completely understand limiting my speech and art around him if he's uncomfortable but he feels he has the right to control what I do outside our relationship/with my friends. I'm not flirting with anyone, I'm never explicit, and I never direct any adult joke or NSFW art piece towards anyone, its just something I find to be funny/interesting sometimes. He kept pushing that I was expressing my sexuality with others and he didn't find that to be okay in the slightest and that this view was extremely important to him.
I asked him the following: "So if I took an art class and we were directed to draw a nude model is that break up material?" He responded that if I wanted to continue to do it, yes it was. So when I asked "So if another day that same art teacher asked us to sketch a nude model and I refused to skip class, you'd break up with me?" and he said he would, I was shocked
NSFW art/anatomy study isn't super important to me that I felt the need to break up, but how do I tell him that I'm not being "sexual" with others? I asked my friends and they all said he was being a controlling and possessive , jealous boyfriend but I kinda want an unbiased opinion here? Am I a bad gf for not understanding? My head is spinning.
TL;DR: Boyfriend disapproves thinking I'm being "sexual with other people" due to my interest in NSFW and adult humor
Submitted February 11, 2021 at 11:45PM by NeedMoreRestLol https://ift.tt/373qcmz
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