My husbands married friends act like I have to earn their approval...?

I 33F am married to another 33M and his male friend got remarried to a 33F.

Whenever my husband and I have group hangouts with them they act like they put up with me to hang out with my husband, or that they would rather they hangout without me.

This may be because when his friends new wife showed up my husband went to an event and invited them along. They were hanging out alone, but most days he is with me is wife obviously.

Anyway, so when they wanted to hang out again, I came along as my husband and I are rarely not together.

I guess this dynamic was not something they wanted.

His male friend started getting very annoyed that I was in the front seat when we went on a double date...I guess he wanted to sit in my seat?

Then I noticed his friends wife gave my husband a nice drink and turned away making sure I knew she didn’t want to give a drink to me.

Then his husband complained and said, “I don’t like when we get together we act like we are just couples....” ...which is odd because we are all couples on a double date...?

One time I was sick and couldn’t go anywhere. My husband said, well my wife is sick. They begged him to come over anyway without me and he asked if it was ok and I said ok...which I now realize I regret.

Finally after a few months he said to my husband, we just want you over. Then my husband said: that offends me. Then they wanted to talk to me on online messages and explain. They said we don’t feel warmed to you and our friendship is at a crossroads. My husband and I haven’t seen them since.

It seems like you might want to make a fiends wife feel welcome, not act like she needs to impress you. Who do they think they are? They are not even blood related. I know this guy comes from a wealthy family, perhaps he thinks he owns my husband? Why are they acting like I’m doing something wrong just for showing up? What intimate conversations do they wish they were having with my husband without me?

What do you make of this?

TLDR: my husbands married friends leave me out and only want to hang out with my husband alone. They act like I have nothing to offer them. What do they want with my husband and not with me? Why would someone need to prove themselves to a married couple when they aren’t married into it? They make sure I know I’m not being offered a drink.

Submitted October 01, 2020 at 04:28PM by BlueRazberry7 https://ift.tt/2HI8QSw