What the title says. Ever since I got to know my husband, I realized he fixes every one of his brother's problems, (without going into the laundry list) despite being 5 years younger. Husband and I are going to move in together in a new city next week (our jobs have been in different states the entire time we were together and we only just found a common location) and I feel this problem is just going to carry over.
In April this year, BIL lost his job and moved in with husband. The idea was he would live there until he got a new job. At the time, husband and I knew we were going to move in together by october, so I thought BIL would be living separately once we move. The problem with BIL is he's severely lacking in social cues and is overly reliant on my husband. Husband even filed his taxes for him because he couldn't be bothered to do it himself. Even filed some immigration paperwork for him. I don't understand why he can't do any of these things by himself but I let it go.
Now, Bil still doesn't have a job and I just learned yesterday (after I asked myself) that he's moving in with us until he gets a job. I'm just incredulous at this point. Not only do I feel disrespected by husband that I've not been told that he's moving in with us, the very fact that he just decided to continue to live with us when I just wanted some privacy with husband ( we've only been married 6 months at this point) is just plain unbelievable. Maybe I'm overreacting, and should be more empathetic to people who are unemployed. If so, I'm sorry. But I was unemployed too before but just sucked it up and handled things myself.
TL;DR BIL moving in with husband and I (until he gets a job) who are just now moving in together. I learned this by asking myself about what he's going to do, wasn't even told. Feel disrespected and annoyed.
Submitted October 01, 2020 at 10:20AM by maybeimbonkers https://ift.tt/2Gh8hih
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