My [28/F] boyfriend [29/M] got angry because I asked him not to stand naked in a window where people might see

This is definitely one of the stranger arguments we've had. I think lockdown is finally getting to him.

We've been together 2 years, live together and are very much in love.

He arrived home from an after-work drink with a friend this evening at around 8pm. He didn't seem particularly drunk, just a bit jolly.

He has a habit of just completely undressing as soon as he gets in the door, right there in the kitchen, and will just stand and chat to me in the nude for a little while before a shower. He's a slightly unusual man, but I enjoy his quirks and I'm definitely not complaining about seeing him in less clothes.

As it was a bit later this evening, it was dark outside but I still had the kitchen blind open. And of course, the lights were on. We live in a house, so it's ground floor, and we have quite large windows. Granted, the window looks onto our walled back yard which leads onto a little alleyway, so it's unlikely anyone was casually looking. But our neighbours smoke and sometimes hang out in their yard, which can see over our wall.

So I got a bit flustered and was like, "Hey, someone might see!". I don't know if it was due to the alcohol, but he just said he didn't care and stood proudly in the window with all his luggage out.

So I leaned over and pulled the blind down, in what I thought was a fairly jokey manner in a non-serious situation.

We then had a very unexpected, significant argument about how he just wants to be himself in his own house, that nudity isn't inherently bad, sexual or something to hide, and he doesn't appreciate being made to feel ashamed of his body.

I mean, I don't know about you guys, but I generally have an instinctive urge to hide my nude body from strangers. And that extends onto people close to me. I don't think there's anything to be ashamed of in our bodies, but I wouldn't want a random neighbour to see or anything. That'd probably make them feel uncomfortable.

But he said he doesn't care, and said that I'm too paranoid about what people think.

I know in all likelihood nobody is ever looking at our house... But still.

I think he may have been more drunk than he let on - we had also just been having a discussion about feeling frustrated because of lockdown, and how he just wants to be free to do what he wants without the endless worry and anxiety. That could have been a part of it.

But I'm honestly caught off guard by all of this. Am I being overly prudish here? How much do people on average worry about being seen naked through windows?

TL;DR Boyfriend wants to be free to be nude in the house, even with blinds open. I think the neighbours might be a little uncomfortable about that.

Submitted October 23, 2020 at 06:41PM by troubledskeleton https://ift.tt/3m9How2